This is a Fan Fav episode. Ever found yourself spiraling into a cycle of comparison that leaves your confidence in tatters? You’re not alone, homie. In this episode, I (Lisa) sit down with the amazing Melissa Ambrosini for an unfiltered conversation on “comparisonitis,” that self-destructive habit we all struggle with. Melissa doesn’t just bring empathy and her own raw stories—from harrowing moments as a dancer to her challenges with motherhood—she drops a tactical, four-step ACES framework to interrupt the self-comparison spiral. Together, we get radically real on body image, self-sabotage, social media triggers, breaking generational cycles, and modeling self-love for our kids. If you’re desperate for practical steps to finally stop comparing and start thriving as the best version of YOU, this is your antidote.

SHOWNOTES

00:01:25 – Melissa relives the brutal world of dance auditions and how constant comparison slowly chipped away her self-worth
00:04:04 – How disordered eating and depression can be a fallout of comparison (and Melissa’s journey to healing)
00:06:49 – The epidemic of body comparison in the age of social media—and why boundaries matter
00:12:24 – The ACES technique: Melissa’s four-step tool to reset your mindset in moments of comparison
00:18:04 – Melissa’s personal story of infertility, supporting friends, and the power of “eliminating the trigger”
00:29:47 – Radical communication: How to honor where you are without letting shame destroy relationships
00:41:14 – The danger of numbing and self-sabotage as ways to avoid difficult emotions
00:44:54 – How to reframe your self-talk and break free from childhood comparison stories
00:48:32 – The final step: Shifting your state and anchoring your energy in self-worth
00:54:34 – Where to find the “antidote” to comparisonitis and keep healing with Melissa

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