The podcast explores the difference between a contract and a covenant mentality in marriage. It emphasizes the deeper significance of marriage as a lifelong commitment based on the exchange of persons instead of goods or services. The episode also delves into the concept of marriage as a covenant of unconditional love, providing individuals with the opportunity to love one another without conditions.
Approaching marriage with a contract mentality can lead to pain as it involves conditional acts of love.
Viewing marriage as a covenant means committing to love unconditionally, even if the other person leaves.
Deep dives
The Difference Between Contracts and Covenants
In this podcast episode, Father Mike Schmitz discusses the difference between contracts and covenants in the context of marriage. He explains that contracts are agreements for an exchange of goods or services based on conditions, whereas covenants are exchanges of persons with no conditions. Father Mike highlights that approaching marriage with a contract mentality can be shallow and lead to pain, as it may involve conditional acts of love, such as being patient or faithful if the partner reciprocates. On the other hand, viewing marriage as a covenant means committing to love unconditionally, even if the other person leaves. It is emphasized that marriage is a high calling, a vocation, and an opportunity to love imperfect individuals unconditionally.
The Power of Promising Forever
Father Mike emphasizes that love naturally desires to promise forever, regardless of whether the Church mandates it or not. He examines the idea that a person who does not choose to love forever will struggle to truly love even for one day. Through the sacrament of matrimony, the Church allows couples to make the promise of forever and offers them the opportunity to love unconditionally, despite their imperfections. Father Mike highlights that unconditional love is what everyone desires, and marriage provides the chance to risk everything and choose to love another imperfect person wholeheartedly. He concludes by contrasting the sincere promises made in a covenant with the conditional nature of contracts.
For the past 50 years the institution of marriage has been under attack. More and more couples are choosing not to get married with the mindset that, "we don't need a piece of paper to show that we love each other."
And yet, that is not at all what the Catholic Church teaches about this sacrament. Today, Fr. Mike delves into the difference between a contract between two persons and the covenant of marriage that every couple is called to enter into.