Focus on the Family with Jim Daly Identifying Harmful Patterns to Heal Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)
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Aug 26, 2025 Tricia and Justin Davis, pastors and co-founders of Refine Us Ministries, share their powerful journey of healing after Justin's infidelity. They discuss harmful patterns in relationships, such as blame and hiddenness, which perpetuate cycles of sin. The couple emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and honesty in rebuilding trust. They also highlight practical steps for couples facing challenges, advocating for seeking support through resources like their book, 'One Choice Away from Change.' Their insights offer hope for lasting transformation in marriages.
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Achievement Culture Masked Marital Decay
- They built their marriage on loving God and achievement, expecting ministry success to fix relational gaps.
- Unmet expectations and repeated unresolved arguments eroded intimacy until the marriage imploded.
Affair Confession That Shattered Their World
- Justin confessed an affair and said he was done with the marriage, which shattered Tricia and their family life instantly.
- That single confession led to losing their church, home, and community, leaving only Tricia's faith intact.
Use Boundaries To Protect Healing
- Set clear boundaries to protect your healing and allow God to work, even if it means letting the spouse go for a season.
- Use boundaries as an act of love that creates space for honest transformation and prevents you becoming an escape goat.
