Relationship Advice People Pleasing and When You Get Invited To Chilli's
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Nov 14, 2025 The hosts dive into the roots of people pleasing, linking it to fear, guilt, and childhood conditioning. They explore the emotional toll it takes on relationships, like resentment and burnout. Listeners learn about identifying personal values to guide decision-making rather than succumbing to guilt. Practical tips include setting boundaries and practicing 'soft no's' to navigate requests more effectively. Overall, the discussion emphasizes the journey from compliance to authentic connection.
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People Pleasing Exists On A Spectrum
- People pleasing is common and sits on a spectrum between over-accommodation and rigid self-protection.
- Balancing your needs and others' needs is hard and often causes guilt or resentment when mishandled.
Fear, Guilt, And Childhood Shape Pleasing
- People please often from fear of conflict or guilt about disappointing loved ones.
- Childhood modeling and punishment for asserting needs can wire people-pleasing responses.
Neurodivergence Influences Social Defaults
- Neurodivergence can push people to adopt simple social rules like 'always say yes' to reduce anxiety.
- That strategy can flatten social complexity and drive either people-pleasing or rigidity.