Understanding Control: The Good and the Bad

Control is often seen as a negative trait associated with manipulation and coercion. However, clinical psychologist Professor Timothy Carey argues that control itself is not inherently bad. He defines control as keeping things the way they are supposed to be and believes that it is essential for our health and well-being. Control allows us to maintain stability in various aspects of our lives, such as our careers, relationships, and finances. While controlling behaviors can be harmful, it is important to differentiate between healthy control and controlling behaviors that lead to harassment and bullying. Developing negotiation and compromise skills can help find common ground and maintain healthy control in social interactions.