What happens when the life you envisioned crumbles in an instant? Betrayal deeply shakes your trust and self-worth, leaving you in a whirlwind of pain and self-blame. Discover how avoidance often follows this heartache and the importance of real support during the healing process. Learn to view betrayal as a form of protection from those who can't be true to themselves. Embrace your worth by reframing your narrative and setting higher standards for future relationships.
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Name The Pain To Begin Healing
Acknowledge the pain of betrayal instead of minimizing it or forcing a quick glow-up.
Unacknowledged pain stays in the background and sabotages future healing and attachment.
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Avoidance Is A Protective Response
After betrayal people often become avoidant to avoid future hurt and so they pull away preemptively.
That avoidance is a learned protective strategy, not a moral failing.
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The Janae And Kenny Example
Najwa shares the Janae and Kenny story where public love crumbled after messages revealed betrayal.
The relationship that looked perfect turned out to be an illusion built for someone else's benefit.
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What do you do when the life you were building with someone turns out to be an illusion? When the love you believed in crumbles in an instant. And all that’s left is dust?
This episode is for the moments after the betrayal. For when your heart is shattered but you're being told to "just move on." For when you’re still carrying the weight of dreams that will never happen. And wondering why you're the one left with all the pain.
Najwa walks you through the reality of betrayal. Not just the event, but the after. The instability. The shame. The self-blame. The hiding. And most importantly… the healing.
If you’ve ever questioned your worth because someone lied to you, cheated on you, or shattered your trust, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.
Timestamps & Show Notes:
0:00 — She thought she built a castle with someone. In one moment, it turned to dust. 1:00 — What betrayal really takes from you — and why pretending you’re fine won’t help 3:00 — Why we become avoidant after betrayal (and why it makes sense) 5:00 — The story of Jana and Kenny: When everything you believed crumbles 8:00 — You’re not weak for feeling the pain. You’re human. 10:00 — Stop surrounding yourself with people who shame you for still hurting 13:00 — Walking on unstable ground and blaming yourself for not being steady 17:00 — What true friendship and support looks like after betrayal 20:00 — You were saved by their inability to be who they claimed they were 22:00 — Stop blaming yourself for being “too much.” You were just too much for the wrong person. 27:00 — Betrayal isn’t your responsibility to fix — even if it shattered everything 31:00 — Why love without visibility isn’t love — it’s invisibility 36:00 — Stop trying to fix what was never yours to fix 40:00 — The real way through: feel it, honor it, and reclaim your worth 42:00 — A final reflection: write down 3 things you now know to be true about yourself
Beyond Words with Najwa Zebian