How to Really Connect with Your Wife (and How Trauma Has Impacted You Both), with Brad Aldrich, LMFT
Apr 1, 2023
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Marriage therapist Brad Aldrich delves into women's sexuality and the impact of past trauma on intimacy. He discusses emotional connection differences between spouses and the importance of curiosity in relationships. The podcast also teases an upcoming Caribbean cruise with special guest coaches for a fun, educational experience.
Wives often seek emotional connection and understanding from husbands, requiring deep conversations and empathy.
Men and women approach connection differently, with men focusing on physical intimacy while women prioritize emotional connection.
Deep dives
The Importance of Connection in Marriage
Wives often seek greater emotional connection and intimacy in their marriages, desiring deep conversations and understanding from their husbands. Husbands may misinterpret this need, thinking they desire the same type of intimacy. Communication plays a crucial role in understanding and meeting the desired connection, going beyond superficial interactions to meaningful conversations about dreams, aspirations, and emotions.
Navigating Differences in Pursuing Connection
Men and women often approach connection differently, with men focusing on physical intimacy to feel connected, while women seek emotional connection first. Understanding these differences and openly communicating desires and motivations can bridge the gap, preventing misunderstandings and fostering true intimacy. Replacing mind-reading with clear communication and acknowledging individual pathways to connection can enhance marital harmony.
Impacts of Trauma and Healing in Relationships
Past traumas, whether big or small, can significantly influence individuals' perceptions of intimacy and trust in relationships. Both men and women carry emotional baggage from past experiences, affecting their ability to connect and feel secure in intimate settings. Recognizing and addressing these traumas, through counseling and healing journeys, can lead to stronger emotional bonds and deeper understanding between partners.
Brad Aldrich, marriage therapist and ministry leader, joins us to discuss what he's learned about women's sexuality. What does connection mean for wives compared to husbands? How do connection, curiosity, and past trauma impact sexual intimacy in your marriage? Take a listen!