Self-Care For Black Women with Oludara Adeeyo

Oludara Adeeyo is a therapist and author of Self-Care for Black Women. Based in Los Angeles, California, she works as a psychiatric social worker where she assists individuals experiencing homelessness as well as severe and persistent mental illnesses. Oludara is passionate about helping people improve their overall wellbeing, especially black women. Before becoming a social worker, Oludara spent 7+ years working as a writer and editor. She's been a social web editor at Cosmopolitan, and managing editor at XXL. Oludara grew up in Edison, New Jersey. She loves Beyonce, hot yoga, cooking, and watching telenovelas.

Connect with Oludara via the links below: 

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oludaraadeeyo/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/OludaraAdeeyo
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oludaraadeeyo/?hl=en
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@oludaraadeeyo
• Book: https://amzn.to/3hgcphw

HIGHLIGHTS

01:56 Inspiration behind the book 

04:46 Getting through grief with self-care and therapy, 5 years later

07:44 Breaking generational trauma starts with you

10:25 Spirituality isn't always synonymous with religion

14:16 Oludara's Top 5 self-care exercises 

16:57 Get rid of limiting friendships and toxic relationships

21:20 Oludara's morning routine

24:09 Going vegan and improving energy levels, PCOS symptoms

26:22 Journey to book deal and entrepreneurship

28:59 From journalist to social worker

32:18 The power of journaling and affirmations

34:10 Practical things to do when the sadness hits

37:56 Our favorite things

39:53 Oludara's message to the world

QUOTES

08:07 Oludara: “I like to call myself a former strong black woman. I was known as the strong friend. I was the one you could go to anytime. No matter what I'm going through, like I'm always gonna be there for someone else. And I really had to learn that, that pattern, it stops with me. I'm not going to ignore my emotions, I'm not going to put my health in jeopardy just because I feel like I need to be perceived as this really super woman."

11:56 Oludara: "You got to find your high power for yourself. Often we like to have it be dictated by our community and the people around us, and we don't like to discover for ourselves and we just want to go off of what everyone's telling us. I really had to do that work myself."

24:44 Oludara: “I think nutrition is so important because sometimes if we eat the wrong stuff, it can really clog up our heads, make us feel worse, and I definitely notice it if I had too much takeout, even if it's plant-based, if I had too much takeout, I will definitely feel sluggish and tired.”

31:26 Oludara: “LA felt like home, social work felt like home. I was coming into my own as a person. Which is also just so important, I feel like as an adult, is like you need to sometimes get out of an environment that you were in for so long to really just grow and learn more about yourself.”

34:59 Oludara: "When you're sad, do whatever makes you feel better. That's very individual and I know it can sound very superficial. I also know that sometimes when you're sad you don't know what will make you feel better. So, practically just get up and move. Sometimes, you just need to move your body."  

39:57 Oludara: "My motto is put yourself first. But I say, your wellness is your greatest resistance in society. It's the greatest thing you can do to push back against grind culture, capitalism culture."

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