Financial Planning Mistakes: The Most Risky Moves Aren’t What You Think

Bruce said something on the show that stuck with me because it’s so honest: Everyone thinks they’re an aggressive investor… until they lose money. And it’s true. Most people don’t even realize the biggest financial planning mistakes they’re making until the moment something “unexpected” happens: a market drop, a job change, a medical curveball, an opportunity they can’t jump on because their money is locked away. https://www.youtube.com/live/wp4PzmsvzFQ Bruce also joked that when people go to casinos, nobody ever admits they lost. They either “won” or “broke even.” But those crystal chandeliers weren’t paid for by winners. That’s exactly what happens in real life with money. In the good years, we feel smart. In the up markets, we feel confident. And when everyone around us is sharing their “wins,” it’s easy to believe the biggest risk is simply not being invested enough. But then the market drops. A business hits a slow season. A medical issue shows up. Interest rates shift. Taxes rise. Or the opportunity you’ve been praying for appears—and your cash is locked up, waiting on someone else’s permission. That’s what today’s conversation is about: the sneaky, everyday financial planning mistakes that create real risk—often more than the stock market ever will. What Most Financial Planning Mistakes Really Look LikeFinancial Planning Mistakes Start With Misunderstanding “Risk”Risk tolerance vs risk capacity (and why it matters)Financial Planning Mistakes: Chasing Returns vs Long-Term Financial SecurityThe hidden cost of FOMOThe Safety, Liquidity, and Growth FrameworkHow to balance safety, liquidity, and growth in a portfolioLiquidity Risk in Financial Planning: Locking Money Away Without Realizing ItFinancial Planning Mistakes: Outsourcing Control and Financial Thinking1) Relying on assumptions instead of strategy2) Giving up access and permissionRetirement Planning Mistakes: Why the “Way Down the Mountain” Is HarderWhat is sequence of returns risk in retirement?How to reduce sequence of returns riskTax Risk: Required Minimum Distributions and the Inherited IRA 10-Year RuleRequired minimum distributions tax planningInherited IRA 10-year rule taxes (SECURE Act)How to Minimize Risk: Whole Life Insurance Cash Value - Liquidityand Legacy ProtectionWhole life insurance as a volatility bufferA personal note on why this mattersWhat to Remember and What to Do NextListen to the Full Episode on Financial Planning MistakesFAQWhat are the most common financial planning mistakes?What is sequence of returns risk in retirement?How do you define risk tolerance vs risk capacity?Why is liquidity important in financial planning?How do required minimum distributions create tax risk?How does the inherited IRA 10-year rule affect heirs?Can whole life insurance reduce portfolio risk? What Most Financial Planning Mistakes Really Look Like When most people hear the word “risk,” they immediately think of market volatility. The stock market goes up and down. Inflation eats purchasing power. Taxes change. Interest rates rise. Those are real risks. But they’re not the only risks—and for many families, they’re not even the biggest ones. Some of the most risky moves in financial planning are the ones that feel “normal”: Chasing returns because you don’t want to miss out Locking money away without liquidity Relying on assumptions instead of strategy Outsourcing too much control and decision-making Ignoring tax risk until required minimum distributions force your hand Building retirement plans without accounting for sequence of returns risk This post is designed to help you identify the financial planning mistakes that quietly erode your financial strength. You’ll also learn a simple framework—safety, liquidity, and growth—that makes decisions clearer, and helps you reduce risk in ways most financial conversations never touch. If you want more control, more flexibility, and more confidence in your future, this is for you. Financial Planning Mistakes Start With Misunderstanding “Risk” Risk is a subjective word. What feels risky to you might feel normal to your friend, your neighbor, or even your spouse. People in the same family can interpret “risk” in completely different ways. That’s why generic risk questionnaires often miss the point. They may score your “risk tolerance,” but they can’t fully capture how you’ll actually respond when real money is on the line and emotions show up. One of the clearest ways to surface what risk truly means to you is to compare two types of risk most people don’t realize they carry: The risk of losing money (or seeing your account value drop) The risk of missing upside (watching the market rise while your portfolio lags) Here’s a simple question that cuts through the noise: If the stock market goes up 20% and you only go up 5%, does that make you feel worse than if the market goes down 20% and you go down 20%—but you could have only gone down 5%? Both matter. Both affect behavior. Both can lead to costly decisions—especially if your plan was built without understanding which kind of risk you actually can live with. Risk tolerance vs risk capacity (and why it matters) Another layer that’s often overlooked is the difference between risk tolerance and risk capacity. Risk tolerance is emotional. It’s how you feel. Risk capacity is structural. It’s whether you can absorb a financial hit without changing your life, your timeline, or your goals. Someone might feel “aggressive” in theory—but if they can’t open their investment statements during a downturn, that’s a signal. If a portfolio drop would force them to delay retirement, sell assets at the wrong time, or sacrifice lifestyle essentials, that’s a signal too. Many financial planning mistakes happen when confidence is treated as a plan. Financial Planning Mistakes: Chasing Returns vs Long-Term Financial Security One of the most common risky financial planning moves is chasing returns without thinking through the cost of the downside. It’s easy to get pulled into what looks like success—especially when you’re only seeing the highlight reel. People talk about the big win: The stock that exploded The crypto run The rental property that doubled The syndication that paid great returns for a few years What you don’t hear as often is the full story: the losses, the near-misses, the stress, the deals that didn’t work, the years where returns were negative, or the moment one major downturn wiped out a decade of progress. There’s also a common belief that causes people to justify risky moves: “More risk means higher returns.” That’s not what higher risk means. Higher risk means higher potential for loss. Sometimes you win big. Sometimes you lose big. And it only takes one major loss to erase years of steady gains. This is why chasing returns vs long-term financial security is such an important conversation. The goal isn’t to catch every upside. The goal is to build a system that lets you keep moving forward—regardless of what the economy does. The hidden cost of FOMO Fear of missing out isn’t just emotional—it changes behavior. It can push you to: Abandon a sound plan for a trendy one Overconcentrate in one asset class Take on leverage you wouldn’t normally take Move money too quickly without understanding what you’re buying FOMO convinces you that the risk is “not being in.” But sometimes the real risk is being in something you don’t understand, can’t control, and can’t exit cleanly. The Safety, Liquidity, and Growth Framework There are three primary attributes that matter in every financial decision: Safety Liquidity Growth Most people have been taught to focus almost exclusively on growth. That’s why financial planning mistakes are so common—because growth is only one part of the equation. You generally can’t maximize all three attributes in one place. Each asset carries trade-offs. That doesn’t mean you avoid growth. It means you assign each bucket of money a purpose—and then choose the asset that does that job best. How to balance safety, liquidity, and growth in a portfolio A better question than “What’s the best investment?” is: What is this money supposed to do? Different dollars have different jobs. Some dollars are meant to be stable and accessible (emergency reserves, opportunity funds, tax buffers). Some dollars can take on long-term growth risk (true long-term capital). Some dollars are meant to create income, serve as a legacy tool, or act as a stability anchor. When every dollar is forced into a growth-only mindset, families create unnecessary vulnerability. Liquidity Risk in Financial Planning: Locking Money Away Without Realizing It Liquidity risk is one of the most underestimated financial planning mistakes. It shows up when you can’t access your money without: penalties approvals delays forced timing market losses gatekeepers It might be your money, but it isn’t in your control. This can happen in many places: retirement accounts with early withdrawal penalties strategies that require “qualifying” to access cash equity trapped in assets that can’t be sold quickly products that take months (or longer) to unwind investments that require perfect conditions to exit A real example: someone retiring from a school system is offered a pension decision—take a higher monthly payment, or reduce it to take a lump sum. The lump sum sounds like “freedom,” but if it must be rolled to an IRA and the person is under 59½, access is restricted without penalty. That’s a liquidity problem. And it’s a control problem. “Locking money away without liquidity” is often disguised as “being responsible” Many people make decisions that look responsible on paper—max out accounts,