91. Love & Sex in a Capitalist Hellscape: Decommodifying our Relationships w. Dr. Kristen Ghodsee
Nov 9, 2022
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Dr. Kristen Ghodsee explores the commodification of relationships under capitalism and patriarchy. Topics include the impact of marriage and monogamy on women's sexuality, challenging patriarchal naming practices, sexual economics theory and its intersection with capitalism, Alexandra Kollontai's Marxist analysis of love, intergenerational conversations and learning, and navigating social media.
Commodification of relationships under capitalism leads to the economic dependence of women's sexuality on men, perpetuating inequality and alienation.
Economic independence and equality in relationships positively impact sexual well-being, and guaranteeing basic needs reduces stress and allows for more fulfilling relationships.
Deep dives
Commodification of Relationships and Sex under Capitalism and Patriarchy
Under capitalism and patriarchy, relationships and sex become commodified, with women's sexuality specifically being forced into economic dependence on men. Marriage itself is seen as a means of commodifying women's sexuality, ensuring intergenerational transfer of wealth and patriarchy. The tenets of sexual economics theory explore the market dynamics of sex, with the price of sex determined by supply and demand. In capitalist societies, where women have limited economic independence, the price of sex is high, as women seek economic security through marriage. This theory, however, is often exploited by misogynistic groups to blame women, rather than critiquing capitalist systems. The commodification of sex affects both parties involved, dehumanizing them and reducing authentic connection. Capitalism's influence on personal lives leads to the marketization of passions, friendships, and even sexuality. This commodification perpetuates inequality and alienation.
The Orgasm Gap and the Effects of Capitalism and Socialism
Studies after the fall of communism have shown that women in socialist countries experienced higher reported rates of orgasm compared to capitalist countries. In societies where women had economic independence and access to birth control, they were able to choose partners based on attraction, affection, and shared interests, leading to more fulfilling sexual relationships. This was attributed to women having the means to leave unhappy or abusive relationships. The quality of women's relationships improved when they had economic independence. However, after the fall of the Soviet Union, many women lost their freedoms and became economically dependent on men, resulting in less fulfilling relationships. This evidence supports the notion that economic independence and equality in relationships positively impact sexual well-being.
Reimagining Relationships: Egalitarianism and Better Sex
Studies and empirical evidence suggest that being in egalitarian relationships leads to better sex and more harmonious partnerships. When people feel valued and equal in their relationships, they can fully enjoy and experience intimacy. Capitalism, with its constant depletion of energy and time, can hinder the ability to be present and vulnerable in relationships. Socialistic countries like Romania, while not perfect, have shown that guaranteeing basic needs reduces stress and allows for a sense of freedom that positively impacts relationships.
Alexandra Kollontai and the Transformation of Private Lives
Alexandra Kollontai, a Russian Bolshevik and advocate for women's liberation, critically analyzed love and human relationships through a Marxist lens. She argued that transforming the family structure is crucial for building a more equitable society. By redistributing reproductive labor and dismantling traditional notions of family, Kollontai believed societies could break free from the cycle of capitalist exploitation. Exploring Kollontai's work can provide valuable insights into reshaping our private lives and relationships to align with socialist principles.
Rundown In this episode, Mexie speaks with Dr. Kristen Ghodsee about the commodification of relationships under capitalism and how we can work towards a liberated future. Dr. Ghodsee is the author of Why Women Have Better Sex Under Socialism and Red Valkyries: Feminist Lessons from Five Revolutionary Women. We dive into the history of the […]
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