The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey HH# 536 Boundaries for our souls with Dr. Alison Cook
We are continuing on in our new Boundaries series and it just keeps getting better! Today on the show is my friend, Dr. Alison Cook. Alison is a psychologist, has her own private practice, writes, coaches, and has worked as a therapist for women for approximately 20 years.
Alison and I talk about how embracing healthy boundaries sometimes starts with setting initial boundaries for ourselves. She explains what it means to get to know the state of our soul, taking those parts of us that were formed when we were younger and what keeps us from moving past those wounds and burdens. We talk about why doing the internal work is so important and we end our conversation with Alison explaining the difference between codependency versus healthy dependency.
Alison says boundaries aren’t primarily the exercise of saying ‘no’ to other people. Rather, boundaries are about saying yes to yourself and your own work of healing. It takes a lot of courage to say there is a wound inside of us that needs healing, but until we can understand ourselves more fully, we will be unable to create good boundaries.
Alison believes our own internal work precedes the work of boundaries. The degree to which we are dealing with our own souls and the woundedness is the capacity with which we will be able to show up with others. Boundaries are not an easy thing, but as Alison will help you to see today, boundaries are meant to protect our beautiful souls.
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