

How I found belonging in the most unfamiliar territory | Atsuko Okatsuka
May 23, 2025
Atsuko Okatsuka, an Asian-American comedian and writer, shares her compelling immigrant story. She discusses her complex upbringing with a schizophrenic mother and the emotional weight of family separation. Through comedy, she confronts feelings of inadequacy and the quest for perfection. Atsuko highlights the power of vulnerability and honesty in fostering belonging and community. Her journey reflects how embracing personal insecurities can lead to acceptance and healing, proving that laughter can emerge even from the toughest experiences.
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Roots of Feeling "Not Good Enough"
- Atsuko Okatsuka felt "not good enough" multiple times due to her unique immigrant upbringing and family challenges.
- Early English struggles and family turmoil shaped her perfectionism and self-doubt.
Childhood English Mistake Anecdote
- Atsuko shared how her English mistake "you can play with we" made other children laugh, causing her to shut down.
- This vulnerable moment likely sparked her lifelong pursuit of perfection in language and social settings.
Manage People-Pleasing Emotions
- Don't respond immediately under emotional pressure; acknowledge feelings like guilt or badness first.
- Take time to breathe and reflect before answering, making it easier to say no or respond clearly.