110. My Husband Doesn't Support Me with His Kids: What Every Stepmom Needs to Know

Oct 24, 2025

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"My husband is an idiot."

That's what a stepmom said to me recently - not once, but multiple times. But behind those words? A mountain of hurt, exhaustion, and feeling completely alone in her own home.

If you've ever felt like you're carrying everything by yourself while your partner seems checked out, dismissive, or just doesn't get it - this episode is for you.

I'm diving deep into what "he doesn't have my back" really means, why it's about so much more than just everyday disagreements, and most important - what you can actually do about it before resentment poisons everything.

This isn't just a communication problem. It's about feeling invisible in your own home. It's about partnership (or the lack of it). And it's time we talk about it.

In Today's Episode, We're Talking About:

What "he doesn't have my back" REALLY means (hint: it's not just about the kids' behavior)
Why your partner might genuinely not see what you're seeing
How resentment becomes a marriage emergency disguised as a stepfamily issue
The vulnerable conversation that can change everything
What to do when he won't engage (and how to know your bottom line)
Why generic therapy advice can make stepfamily dynamics worse
For coaches: Why this will be a top issue in your practice

Resources Mentioned:

For Stepmoms: Join the Stepfamily Circle for scripts, strategies, and community support
For Aspiring Coaches: Learn how to help families navigate these dynamics with wisdom and expertise at stepfamilysolutions.com/stepfamily-certification

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The more we talk about this stuff openly, the more we normalize the struggle, and the more stepmoms realize they're not alone and they're not crazy.

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