Most high achievers are being driven by the absolute worst source of fuel: Fear, guilt, shame, and insecurities.

These traps are alluring because they’re actually effective routes to short-term success. And they disguise themselves as grit, discipline, and sheer determination.

Problem is… the well eventually runs dry.

And that’s the real reason why you feel stuck, uninspired, drained, and like you’re always playing catch up.

Worst part?

You might feel like you’re being lazy, undisciplined, or just aren’t hungry enough. That’s when most high achievers double down, hustle harder, and deprive themselves of the simple joy of being alive.

And no amount of short-term success can prevent the inevitable long-term debt you’ll pay:

Your relationships suffer. Your body suffers. You hit milestones that feel meaningless. You drift through your days numb, distracted, or secretly angry. And you lose yourself trying to win a race that never ends.

But here’s the good news:

This doesn’t have to be your life. You just need a different source of fuel. And in today’s show, you’ll discover what this different source of fuel is and how to build it.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

The true source of success that many high achievers never realize until they feel dead inside (0:41)
The weird thing drinking too much caffeine reveals about your success, fulfillment, and happiness (especially over the long-term) (2:12)
The neurochemical explanation behind flow (and how understanding the science behind it allows you to enter it more freely) (2:55)
Why designing your life around enjoyment instead of suffering is the single best formula for long-term career success (even if it sounds wrong, lazy, or feels like you’re cheating) (4:16)
The counterintuitive reason discipline and grit will break you (7:16)
The "leaking energy” trap which explains your burnout, your daily frustrations, and your overwhelming sense of hopelessness even in the midst of “success” (12:02)
How to expand your tolerance for discomfort, give your pain a place to go, and turn the crap you’ve been through into unlimited fuel (and why most high achievers never accomplish this) (14:18)

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

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Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

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