Life's Dirty Little Secrets Podcast | Breaking Silence Around the Secrets We All Carry Secret #58: Raising a Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson
Are you struggling with how much to help—or how much to back off—when it comes to your child’s motivation, schoolwork, and screen time? Dive into this insight-packed episode as leading neuropsychologist Dr. William Stixrud and tutoring expert Ned Johnson reveal game-changing research on autonomy-supportive parenting, fostering resilience, and why letting kids solve their own problems builds lifelong confidence.
Hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington join Stixrud and Johnson to unpack the science behind why children crave autonomy, how a low sense of control fuels anxiety and stress, and what it actually means to become a “non-anxious presence” as a parent. Learn the crucial differences between supportive guidance and hands-off, laissez-faire parenting, how to talk with your kids about technology and motivation (without endless fights), and why prioritizing your relationship beats chasing perfect grades.
Plus, you’ll hear deeply personal stories of setbacks, surprises, and bouncing forward after failure—reminding us that the path to thriving adulthood is rarely a straight line. Whether you’re worried about homework wars, video game battles, or just want a better connection with your kids, this conversation is packed with actionable wisdom, empowering you to raise self-driven, resilient children while keeping your sanity and joy as a parent.
Topics Discussed in this Episode:
- Autonomy supportive parenting strategies
- Fostering intrinsic motivation in children
- Navigating technology and screen time
- Building resilience through adversity
- Cultivating non-anxious parenting presence