Dear Dr. Tracy ICYMI: Defensiveness vs Assertiveness
In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits with her husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.
They answer real questions from the community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.
In this episode, they discuss:
- Important examples of defensive and assertive responses
- How modelled communication styles from your personal history effects your present communication styles
- The effect that the words we use have on our inner narratives
- The ways that adequacy, shame, and self-worth play a part in our responses
- How self-respect is a key player in understanding defensiveness
- The key differences between the female and male experience in our responses
- How assertiveness creates space for your thoughts, feelings, needs, and your partner’s understanding
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