Beyond Words with Najwa Zebian 026- Your Partner Comes First
What do you do when your partner says they’re uncomfortable with a “friendship” you have with someone else?
In this soul-nourishing conversation, I’m joined by one of my dearest friends—IN-Q (you may know him as @inq.life)—for a deep dive into love, boundaries, trust, and the quiet ways we betray ourselves when we try to be “easygoing” at the cost of emotional safety.
We talk about the difference between secure love and detached love, why “unconditional” doesn’t mean “anything goes,” and how your non-negotiables aren’t demands—they’re clarity. We explore the nuance behind opposite-sex friendships, the idea of “leaky energy,” and what it actually means to honor your relationship without policing each other.
We also go inward: why expression heals, why the right words can become medicine, and why the most powerful relationship you’ll ever build is the one where you learn to speak to yourself with respect.
This episode is for anyone who’s ever asked:
- Am I allowed to have needs in love?
- When is compromise healthy—and when is it self-abandonment?
- How do I walk away from someone I still love?
- What does trust actually require?
And it ends with something you might not know you needed to hear: I don’t need to know you to be proud of you.
Guest: IN-Q (@inq.life)
Find IN-Q: in-q.com | Inquire Within | Never-Ending Now Poetry Journal | retreats + tour dates via his newsletter
If this conversation held you, share it with someone who needs permission to choose themselves—without guilt.