#747 Bo V - Non Binary & Recovering People Pleaser
May 9, 2025
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Bo V, a stand-up comedian, actor, and writer, shares their journey navigating self-judgment and shame while embracing their non-binary identity. They discuss their search for a supportive church community after leaving Catholicism and the healing power of love and companionship. The conversation delves into the challenges of people-pleasing, personal trauma, and the importance of authenticity in mental health. Bo reflects on the complex dynamics with family and how these experiences shape their self-acceptance and identity.
Bo V discusses their journey towards self-acceptance, focusing on overcoming self-judgment and shame after discovering their trans identity.
The episode highlights the struggle of content creators like Paul, who face the ethical dilemma of unwanted ad placements in their podcasts.
Conversations around trauma and the importance of therapy emphasize the value of creating safe spaces for discussing mental health struggles.
Deep dives
Instagram Teen Accounts for Safety
New Instagram teen accounts are introduced to enhance the safety of teenagers online. These accounts come with automatic protections that limit who can contact teens and what content they can access. This initiative aims to create a safer digital environment, much like ensuring that a child wears a seatbelt or protective gear while biking. The hope is to instill secure online practices that parents can trust as their children navigate social media.
The Challenge of Advertising Control
The creator expresses frustration over losing control of ad placements within their podcast. They were previously able to read selected ads themselves but now face a situation where ads not of their choosing are being injected into episodes. This dilemma raises ethical concerns, especially when the ads are for brands that they do not support. The struggle between financial necessity and authentic representation highlights a broader conflict that many content creators face.
Mental Health and Judgment
The host emphasizes the importance of understanding one's thoughts and feelings related to judgment. They reflect on their personal experiences with sobriety, noting that underneath addiction lies a desire to judge others. The struggle lies in recognizing these judgmental impulses and choosing a more compassionate approach towards oneself and others. Acknowledging these feelings is crucial for emotional health and feels necessary for maintaining peace and stability.
The Impact of Online Rage Culture
The host shares insights on how viral videos depicting anger and outrage can evoke mixed feelings. While initially feeling superior to those losing control, they recognize that such behaviors may stem from deeper trauma. This realization invites a more empathetic perspective, suggesting that the individuals caught in these moments may need understanding and help. It prompts self-reflection about their own judgmental responses and the complexities of human emotion.
Diverse Perspectives on Israel
A listener shares their perspective as a younger Jewish American, contrasting their experience with that of an older guest who previously discussed unconditional support for Israel. They highlight that many from their generation feel disconnected from such sentiments and do not share the same fervent views. This commentary underlines the diversity of opinions within the Jewish community and challenges the notion that all Jewish individuals support Israel's actions. It emphasizes the importance of listening to varied narratives that shape identities.
The Role of Therapy and Self-Advocacy
The dialogue underscores the importance of therapy in navigating personal struggles and advocating for oneself. A listener expresses a desire to speak more openly about their experiences of trauma but feels hesitant. This reluctance speaks to a broader issue where many individuals grapple with the stigma surrounding mental health discussions. It reinforces the value of finding supportive environments where such conversations can happen safely and openly.
Bo V is a stand-up comedian, actor, and writer who attends Paul’s support group. They talk about the work they’re doing on self-judgment and shame, finding the perfect church after leaving Catholicism, and discovering their trans identity.
If you’re interested in seeing or buying the furniture that Paul designs and makes follow his IG for his woodworking which is transitioning from @MIHHfurniture to its new handle @ShapedFurniture
