This American Life

289: Go Ask Your Father

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Jun 15, 2025
Lenny Davis, a distinguished professor emeritus, shares a startling family secret about his parentage, revealing a possible connection to his uncle via artificial insemination. Meanwhile, Paul Tough, a contributing editor, recounts his father’s eccentric journey to connect with extraterrestrial life, posing deep questions about their relationship. Each narrative explores the complexities of father-son dynamics, identity, and the longing for understanding, revealing that the answers we seek may lead to unexpected discoveries.
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ANECDOTE

Unanswered Cassette Tapes

  • Eric sent many cassette tapes to his father, hoping for replies, but none ever came.
  • When Eric finally asked why, his father painfully confessed he lacked the strength to respond back then.
INSIGHT

Confronting Changing Parents

  • Confronting parents about past hurts rarely satisfies because they often have changed.
  • The parents responsible may be gone, replaced by gentler people, complicating closure.
INSIGHT

Conflict in Parental Identity

  • Lenny feels conflicted wanting his father to be his dad but also wanting to reject his difficult parent.
  • The search for identity struggles between wanting continuity and desiring distance.
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