Jen Wilkin, Speaker at TGC23, discusses the impact of individualism on family values, promoting biblical identity, love, and safety. Topics include delayed gratification, communal focus, setting expectations, open dialogue, teaching wisdom, scripture, and family bonds through shared affection.
Parenting focuses on building disciples not converts, fostering family faith and identity.
Creating a culture of shared affection through bonding activities and prioritizing family dinners.
Encouraging conversation, conflict resolution, and a positive shared language within the family unit.
Deep dives
Parenting toward a Shared Identity
Parenting is not about making converts but disciples. Building a shared faith where children know their place in the family and with God. Conversations start by understanding who God is and that children are part of something bigger. Glorifying the Lord together forms a strong family identity in faith.
Maintaining Shared Affection
Create a culture of shared affection where family becomes each other's favorite people. Promote shared time, interests, and experiences to overlap and bond together. Prioritize family dinners, activities that push the family together, and enable children to contribute to the family unit.
Enabling Shared Language
Encourage a climate of conversation by asking good questions and promoting dialogue. Teach children the importance of kind words, conflict resolution, and slow responses. Focus on words of gratitude, reconciliation, and eternal truths to foster a positive shared language in the home.
Fostering Shared Expectations
Establish clear and age-appropriate expectations centered around obedience and responsibilities like chores. Balance law and grace while ensuring consequences are tied to understandings and commitments. Encourage delayed gratification and a communal mindset to promote unity and consideration for others.
Embracing Shared Time
Evaluate the family's schedule to prioritize quality time and shared activities while avoiding overprogramming. Assess the impact of activities on family dynamics, responsibilities, and communal experiences. Consider the communal aspects of faith, entertainment, and church involvement to strengthen the family's shared time.
In this breakout session at TGC23, Jen Wilkin discusses how the ideals of individualism, personal fulfillment, and self-directed paths to happiness can negatively affect family relationships. Wilkin teaches parents how to regain a deep focus on the shared space we call home and foster a family environment of biblical values, love, safety, and true identity in Christ.
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