Ep. 309 - Why You Don’t Need to “Find Yourself”: A Biblical View of Identity

Many say they need to find themselves, but what does that mean? Ray, E.Z., Mark, and Oscar talk about how when we look within ourselves for meaning, we walk away disheartened. The truth is, we find ourselves by losing ourselves in Christ. Believers don’t need to find themselves; they need to forget themselves. When we keep our eyes on the Lord, the opinions of others won’t bother us. Only when we realize that Jesus is all we have do we understand He’s all we need.

What we think about ourselves dictates our entire lives. Historically, people found identity through those around them, but when society decays, this can fail. The world tells people to look, but our hearts make terrible gods. What happens when an entire generation looks inside and sees hypocrisy, lies, and brokenness? The gospel teaches Christians to look to the Lord for our identity. Before Ray was saved, he felt an inner cry that only Christ could answer. In Him, we find truth, and the truth sets us free. The call isn’t to discover ourselves, but to deny ourselves for God’s glory. Many people don’t know why they’re alive—that’s the horror of a life without God. We must return to the God who made our souls.

The world tells us to love ourselves, but Scripture says to love our neighbors as ourselves because self-love comes naturally. Today’s culture sets us up as gods. This is why so many people, including celebrities, end up lost and lonely. Only when we understand what Jesus did and who He is can we find peace. The guys talk about a believer’s biblical identity as sons and daughters of the living God. We don’t need to find our identity—it was given to us in salvation. When our eyes are on the Lord, everything else falls into place. Even in uncertainty, we don’t question God’s love. The Lord is our foundation and salvation, and it is well with our souls. To be loved by God as His child is to be adopted into His family. 

As believers, our identity is found in being God’s prized possession. His love for us is deeper than any human love. Out of all creation, His adopted children are His favorite. We are His inheritance. When we possess the greatest treasure, nothing else matters. We’ve been touched by the living God, and we don’t need to search for meaning—we are His children. When the world comes against us, God defends us. Our worth is found in Him alone. Look to the cross, and you will never lose sight of His love. There's no greater cure for your soul than being consumed by the Lord.

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Ray Comfort
Emeal (“E.Z.”) Zwayne
Mark Spence
Oscar Navarro