Time with Tim Fletcher S3E07 | Q&A with Tim Fletcher: Boundaries
Dec 11, 2025
Explore the complex world of boundaries and their impact on healing from trauma. Discover why establishing limits can feel confusing and are often perceived as selfish. Learn about the crucial differences between internal and external boundaries and the importance of self-care. Tim shares practical tools for setting sustainable boundaries and addresses the pitfalls of shame and perfectionism. Understand how to reconnect with your body and balance emotional needs alongside physical health to foster healthier relationships.
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Boundaries Are Acts Of Love
- Healthy boundaries are acts of love that protect relationships rather than punish them.
- Unhealthy family systems normalize harmful rules that recovery must actively resist.
Show Change By Living It
- Start by living new boundaries rather than lecturing the family about change.
- Plan responses and rehearsal (A/B/C) so triggers can't drag you back into old patterns.
Redesigning Holiday Routines
- Tim and Kim negotiated new Christmas routines to protect their own family time.
- They proposed a compromise and reduced tension by joining only for dinner rather than the whole morning.