Concerns about the impact of an unconventional lifestyle on children, balancing work and personal life during pregnancy, taking on partner's student loan debt, navigating unmet expectations, requesting grace for celebration from a recovering alcoholic partner, and addressing a partner's aversion to alcohol due to past trauma.
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Quick takeaways
Balancing work and personal life during pregnancy can be challenging, and it's important to prioritize self-care and manage expectations.
When dating someone with significant student loan debt, it's crucial to openly discuss financial goals and potential implications for the relationship.
Navigating the impact of past trauma on relationships requires open communication, empathy, and potentially seeking professional help to address unresolved issues.
Deep dives
Approaching Student Debt as a Serious Relationship
The person's partner has significant student loan debt, and they are concerned about how this will affect their relationship and financial future together. They mention the possibility of taking on the debt themselves and wonder how to mentally and financially approach this situation.
Seeking Advice on Balancing Work and Personal Projects During Pregnancy
A pregnant woman is struggling to balance her work and personal projects due to her pregnancy. She discusses feeling disappointed and guilty for not being able to keep up with her previous level of productivity. She seeks advice on how to handle these feelings and the potential impact on her future as a parent.
Navigating the Financial and Moral Dilemma of Student Loan Debt
The person is dating someone with significant student loan debt and is concerned about the financial implications of merging their finances in the future. They also discuss their shared moral stance on the issue of student loan debt and seek advice on how to approach this dilemma.
Exploring the Impact of Student Loan Debt on a Relationship
The person is in a relationship with someone who has substantial student loan debt, and they are worried about how it will affect their future together. They discuss the potential burden of the debt and the limitations it may impose on their finances, including the ability to own a home.
Stepping up as a temporary lead
The podcast episode discusses a listener's experience of stepping up as a temporary lead in their workplace during their manager's extended vacation. At first, the listener found it stressful but eventually excelled in the role, receiving positive feedback from the team and leadership. With their manager's return approaching, they are uncertain about whether to trust their manager and give back their new responsibilities or push to keep the role, especially with a promotion cycle coming up. A startup coach suggests leveraging the experience gained, building relationships with higher-level members of the organization, and discussing career growth with both the leaders and the manager upon her return.
Navigating a partner's aversion to alcohol
The podcast episode addresses a listener's dilemma regarding her partner's aversion to alcohol due to past experiences with an abusive alcoholic ex-spouse. The listener initially had the freedom to drink occasionally, but over time, her partner's stance on alcohol consumption became more rigid, causing strain in their relationship and social interactions. The listener wonders if she would disrespect her partner's trauma by enjoying alcohol at certain events, like her son's upcoming wedding. The hosts acknowledge the difficult situation and advise open communication, validating the partner's feelings, discussing the impact on the relationship and personal freedom, and seeking professional help to address the unresolved trauma.
Your openly swinging friends brought a third into their relationship, and you worry about how it's affecting their kids. Welcome to another Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
You're concerned about your friends' unconventional swinging throuple lifestyle and its potential impact on their children. How do you check in without seeming judgmental?
Pregnancy-related fatigue has you struggling to balance your professional and personal life, and the guilt of underachievement is bringing you down. What do you do when life gets in the way of your own expectations?
Your partner plans on ditching responsibility for his ballooning student debt because he's not optimistic he'll ever be able to pay off the predatory terms he agreed to when he was younger and ill-advised. While you morally agree with his stance, you wonder what your obligation would be if you remained together and it came time to merge accounts. [Thanks to certified financial planner David Gilmore for helping us with this one!]
You filled in for your manager during her eight-week vacation, built strong connections within the company, and gained the respect of your colleagues while stepping up to the role. Now that she's back, how can you use this valuable experience to prove you're ready for more responsibilities (and a bigger paycheck)?[Thanks to executive coach and From Start-Up to Grown-Up author Alisa Cohn for helping us field this one!]
Due to a previous marriage to an abusive alcoholic, your partner is intolerant of being around people who are even modestly intoxicated. How can you ask him for a little grace and freedom to celebrate your son's upcoming wedding without disrespecting his boundaries?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!