Why You're Always Explaining Yourself (And What It’s Really About)

Why do we over-explain, justify, or get defensive—especially in our closest relationships? In this episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores the deeper reasons behind the urge to explain yourself, even when it doesn’t bring clarity or connection.

Drawing from her work with clients, Dr. Tracy unpacks how childhood wounds, people-pleasing, and fear of rejection often drive our need to be understood or seen as "right."

You’ll learn why this pattern is so common in romantic relationships, how it shows up as defensiveness or justification, and what to do instead to create emotional safety and deeper connection.

This episode offers compassionate insight and actionable tools to shift out of old patterns and into relational healing.

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