How Jay Conner Raises Private Money and Empowers Real Estate Investors

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“Unlocking Real Estate Wealth with Private Money, with Jay Conner”

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 When it comes to breaking into real estate investing, one myth has persisted for years: just get a deal under contract, and the money will show up. On a recent episode of the Raising Private Money podcast, John Odermatt sat down with Jay Conner—also known as the Private Money Authority—to bust that myth and reveal a smarter, safer path to funding real estate deals.

Why Private Money Changes the Game

Jay Conner, a veteran investor who’s bought, flipped, and rehabbed over 500 houses, attributes the success of his business not to market timing or secret deals, but to the strategic use of private money. As Jay explains, “Private money’s had more of an impact on our real estate investing business than any other strategy that we’ve employed since I started using private money to fund my deals.” The difference was clear during the 2009 financial crisis. Jay was suddenly cut off from traditional bank loans, but instead of giving up, he pivoted. After a critical conversation with another investor, he discovered the world of private money and self-directed IRAs.

Turning Problems into Opportunities

Jay’s story began with adversity: his bank stopped lending, and his deals were at risk. Rather than dwelling on the setback, he asked himself, “Who do you know that can help fix your problem?” That single question led him to a seminar on private money, and ultimately to raising over $2.15 million in alternative funding in just a few weeks. Instead of seeking help from institutions, Jay got creative and built relationships with private lenders—ordinary people interested in secure, high-return investments.

The Servant’s Heart Approach

A unique aspect of Jay’s approach to private money is his attitude. He decided never to ask anyone directly for money or pitch specific deals. Instead, he adopted a “servant’s heart” mindset, positioning himself as a teacher. As Jay puts it, “I started sharing… with my own network, my own connections, my own warm market as to what private money is and how they could be a private lender and how they could earn high rates of return safely and securely, either using their investment capital or… their retirement account.” 

Jay designed a private money program offering 8% interest, with no points or origination fees. He secured these investments with deeds of trust or mortgages and included additional protections like naming lenders on insurance and title policies.

How Jay Gets Deals Funded Without Pitching

Instead of pitching deals, Jay educates his network about the opportunity first. When a suitable deal comes up, he simply provides his lender with the good news: he can now put their money to work, matching the funding required with the lender’s available funds. 

Jay says, “The most stupid thing I could do is ask… do you want to fund the deal? Of course, they want to fund the deal.” His system separates the teaching of private money from the timing of specific deals, making the process seamless and stress-free for both parties.

Getting Started in Private Money—Even If You’re Brand New

Many new investors wonder, “Who’s going to loan me money if I’ve never done a deal before?” Jay emphasizes two reasons why this is possible: first, private loans are secured by the property itself. If the investor defaults, the lender gets the property, making it a safe bet. 

Second, Jay recommends partnering with experienced mentors. “A brand new real estate investor should not be doing this business unless they have jo