The Hard Way With Joe De Sena How a Navy SEAL Rebuilt Discipline and Control After Service
Nov 25, 2025
18:50
When the mission ends, the mindset stays. Navy SEAL veteran and leadership coach Kevin Stark talks with Joe about rebuilding identity after service, finding calm in pressure, and using simple daily discipline to stay grounded when life shifts. This conversation goes inside the habits, decisions, and mindset work that strengthen resilience, mental toughness, and control under stress. Timestamps 00:58 Why Kevin joined the SEALs at 18 02:29 How BUD/S training builds mental control 05:15 How he rebuilt identity after service 09:55 How service shapes leadership and humility 14:51 How cold exposure builds calm under stress Three Key Learnings
- How discipline builds mental toughness when external structure disappears
- How small daily actions raise resilience and calm under pressure
- How service and leadership shape identity after major transitions
- Response Gap: Creating space before reacting, rooted in Viktor Frankl's work
- Daily Discipline Reps: Push ups, cold exposure, breathwork to shift mindset fast
- Rota Path Method: Reflection-based leadership work through structured challenges