Rage Against The Vagine

Why (the F*ck) Didn’t Anyone Tell Us? | Shame, Silence & Systems Against Us

Aug 31, 2025
Myf Warhurst, a broadcaster and journalist, delves into the historical context of women's midlife transitions, while A/Prof Nellie Torkamani, an endocrinologist, examines generational experiences of menopause. They discuss the cultural stigma and medical paternalism that have kept menopause discussions silenced. The conversation highlights the alarming lack of menopause education for healthcare providers and the unique challenges faced by marginalized communities, sparking a call for systemic change and more inclusive research.
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INSIGHT

Systems Weren't Built For Us

  • Perimenopause is massively under-recognised because systems were designed around male norms and ageist misogyny.
  • Medical training often gives GPs about an hour on menopause, so practitioners lack confidence and awareness.
INSIGHT

Stigma Shapes Silence

  • Menopause carries social scripting linking it to decline, shame and loss of sexual citizenship.
  • That stigma pushed conversations underground and made public discussion rare until recently.
ANECDOTE

Family Silence And Glorified Suffering

  • A/Prof Nellie Torkamani remembers her mother being told to 'just get on with it' and glorify suffering.
  • That hush-hush culture left many older women isolated and angry during perimenopause.
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