338 - The Real Reason You Procrastinate, People-Please, and Chase Perfection (It’s Not What You Think)

You know that sinking feeling when you’re about to start something important—but instead, you scroll, organize a drawer, or suddenly need to deep-clean your entire kitchen?

Or when you say yes to something you definitely don’t want to do, just to avoid disappointing someone?

Or when you rewrite an email seven times before sending it, making sure there’s no room for anyone to judge you?

But here’s the truth: These aren’t personality traits. They’re actually stress responses.

Perfectionism, people-pleasing, and procrastination aren’t random habits—they’re deeply wired patterns your nervous system created to keep you safe. 

At some point, your brain learned that being perfect, avoiding failure, or making everyone happy helped you avoid rejection, criticism, or disappointment. 

And now? These patterns are running on autopilot.

But here’s the good news: You can rewire them.

In this episode, we’re breaking down:

•  Why these patterns feel impossible to shake (spoiler: it’s not a willpower issue)
•  How your nervous system keeps you stuck in stress loops—and what to do about it
•  The first steps to rewiring these patterns so you can move through life with more ease, confidence, and peace

Because you’re not stuck this way. 

And the sooner you stop seeing these patterns as your personality and start seeing them as something you can rewire, the sooner you’ll finally feel free.

Let’s get into it. 🎧👇

Related Links:

• Previous Episode
• Break Free from Perfectionism & Procrastination and Build Habits That Stick
• The Spiritual Solution to People Pleasing
• How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle
• Are You a Perfectionist? 3 Reasons Perfectionists Have High Anxiety
• Is it Perfectionism or Excellence? How to Tell the Difference and What to Do About It