Mindset, Mood & Movement: Systems Thinking for Founder How we can go from Pain to Power as a man with Yaron Engler
This episode I discuss the concept of moving from pain to power, particularly in the context of men's personal growth and development. Yaron shares his framework called "CROP" (Cleansing, Reconnecting, Observing, Peace/Play/Potential) as a way to help men navigate this journey. The conversation covers topics such as defining pain and power, the role of shame, embodiment, and the importance of self-awareness and presence. I share my experiences personally and professionally with working with men.
My hope is if you're a man is having a difficult time, this will give you some insight some tools to work with.
Key Insights/Learnings:
1. Pain can be a teacher or a source of suffering, while power is associated with freedom and presence.
2. Shame cannot survive being spoken – sharing and being witnessed can release the power of shame.
3. Leaning into pain and discomfort, rather than avoiding them, is crucial for personal growth.
4. Cultivating self-awareness through practices like body scans and observing one's thoughts and actions can lead to more freedom and power.
5. The "CROP" framework provides a cyclical approach to cleansing, reconnecting with one's authentic self, observing life with greater awareness, and living with peace, play, and potential.
6. Personal growth often involves letting go of old identities and beliefs, which can be challenging for those around us.
7. True change is an ongoing process, not a one-time achievement – it's about embracing the journey, not just the destination.
Show Notes:
0:00 - Introduction
1:00 - Defining pain and power
7:00 - Yaron's personal journey with pain and finding healthy role models
12:00 - The power of leaning into pain and discomfort
17:00 - The role of shame and the importance of speaking it
22:00 - Embodiment and using the body as a guide
27:00 - Strategies for developing self-awareness and presence
33:00 - Cultivating freedom and disconnecting from old identities
38:00 - The "CROP" framework (Cleansing, Reconnecting, Observing, Peace/Play/Potential)
43:00 - Preparing loved ones for personal growth and change
47:00 - Final thoughts: living life vs. thinking about lifeYaron's BIO
Yaron Engler, an inspiring force for positive change, brings a playful and honest approach to his coaching. With over 25 years of experience as an educator, coach, husband, father, and world-class musician, he draws from a diverse background, including featured talk at TEDxJaffa.
Yaron, the Founder of On Being Men, supports driven individuals through deep conversations and challenging practices, focusing on honest communication and purpose alignment for healthy relationships, clarity, confidence, and freedom.
Despite challenges, including battling depression and overcoming societal expectations about his passion for drumming, Yaron's journey led him to develop the CROP Cycle, a simple framework for men's growth in relationships, purpose, and freedom.
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Get in touch with Yaron below:
Website: https://onbeingmen.com/
90-day training program:
THE MAN YOU WANT TO BE
In-person workshop for men in Sussex - April 2024 : YOUR CORE QUEST
Mentions: Brene Brown's website.
Brene's TED talk - The Power of Vulnerability
Brene's TED talk - Listening to Shame
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