Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast What Monogamous Couples can Learn from Polyamory-S03E15
Mar 20, 2021
01:00:47
Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/315
Recorded: 10/04/2020
- In this episode of The Krypt Mayfair and I have an interesting article from Time Magazine talking about lessons the monogamous can learn from the polyamorous.
- Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com.
- Rules to Love By:
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
- “What Monogamous Couples Can Learn From Polyamorous Relationships, According to Experts” by Samantha Cooney / Aug 27, 2018, 3:23 PM EDT
https://time.com/5330833/polyamory-monogamous-relationships/?fbclid=IwAR0vwTiKjX4UcpgBKB7R2zwJe3LVoDWUSNLQh8mLiDgbni8Zn_w21Gf9h0w
Polyamory, having more than one consensual sexual or emotional relationship at once, has in recent years emerged on television, mainstream dating sites like OkCupid and even in research. And experts who have studied these kinds of consensual non-monogomous relationships, say they have unique strengths that anyone can learn from.
Consensual non-monogamy can include polyamory, swinging and other forms of open relationships, according to Terri Conley, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Michigan who has studied consensual non-monogamy. While there aren’t comprehensive statistics about how many people in America have polyamorous relationships, a 2016 study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that one in five people in the U.S. engage in some form of consensual non-monogamy throughout their lives.
- Communication
Successful monogamous relationships require communication about desires, needs and problems, says Joanne Davila, a professor of clinical psychology at Stony Brook University who studies monogamous relationships. And this is one area where polyamorous couples excel.
- Defining the relationship
“Everyone jokes that love is not a finite resource, but time is,” Kincaid says. “You can have multiple partners you want to see a lot — you have to negotiate time and space to do that.”
- Practicing safe sex
- Managing jealousy
- Maintaining a sense of independence
“If we’re a married monogamous couple, we have to figure out what to do about our problems. We’re either going to avoid them, resolve them or break up,” Karney says. “But if I’m in a non-monogamous relationship and I have the same problem, I might not have to resolve it if I’m not getting all my needs met from you.”
Important Links:
Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/315
National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication
https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic
Show Producers:
-Benefactor ($2,000/month):
-Pro Producer ($100/month):
-Master Producer ($50/month):
-Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, LylacWine, and Brendan
-Sr. Producers ($10/month): Matt, xEmeraldxWolfx, Roxiebear, Trouble113, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, JayKayVoss, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Raefe, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, PurplePantera, Stella, Grog4life, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, and JohnathonHood
-Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, Alexandria, knot_the_daddy, KJ, LilyChaos, Hadea, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Bonneville, Atsila, PWB, MBRpoodle, Baddogbad, and CozyCow
-Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, and Rope Aficionado
Become a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
Vendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)
- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.
- http://www.torridtimber.com/ - Fine fetish furniture and accessories
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist
-Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners*
Contact info:
Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.com
Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fire
Twitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrin
Instagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/
Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypt
Paypal: MasterKuldrin http://paypal.me/masterkuldrin
http://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource
Limits and Interest Survey: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/survey
Recorded: 10/04/2020
- In this episode of The Krypt Mayfair and I have an interesting article from Time Magazine talking about lessons the monogamous can learn from the polyamorous.
- Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com.
- Rules to Love By:
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
- “What Monogamous Couples Can Learn From Polyamorous Relationships, According to Experts” by Samantha Cooney / Aug 27, 2018, 3:23 PM EDT
https://time.com/5330833/polyamory-monogamous-relationships/?fbclid=IwAR0vwTiKjX4UcpgBKB7R2zwJe3LVoDWUSNLQh8mLiDgbni8Zn_w21Gf9h0w
Polyamory, having more than one consensual sexual or emotional relationship at once, has in recent years emerged on television, mainstream dating sites like OkCupid and even in research. And experts who have studied these kinds of consensual non-monogomous relationships, say they have unique strengths that anyone can learn from.
Consensual non-monogamy can include polyamory, swinging and other forms of open relationships, according to Terri Conley, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Michigan who has studied consensual non-monogamy. While there aren’t comprehensive statistics about how many people in America have polyamorous relationships, a 2016 study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that one in five people in the U.S. engage in some form of consensual non-monogamy throughout their lives.
- Communication
Successful monogamous relationships require communication about desires, needs and problems, says Joanne Davila, a professor of clinical psychology at Stony Brook University who studies monogamous relationships. And this is one area where polyamorous couples excel.
- Defining the relationship
“Everyone jokes that love is not a finite resource, but time is,” Kincaid says. “You can have multiple partners you want to see a lot — you have to negotiate time and space to do that.”
- Practicing safe sex
- Managing jealousy
- Maintaining a sense of independence
“If we’re a married monogamous couple, we have to figure out what to do about our problems. We’re either going to avoid them, resolve them or break up,” Karney says. “But if I’m in a non-monogamous relationship and I have the same problem, I might not have to resolve it if I’m not getting all my needs met from you.”
Important Links:
Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/315
National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication
https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic
Show Producers:
-Benefactor ($2,000/month):
-Pro Producer ($100/month):
-Master Producer ($50/month):
-Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, LylacWine, and Brendan
-Sr. Producers ($10/month): Matt, xEmeraldxWolfx, Roxiebear, Trouble113, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, JayKayVoss, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Raefe, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, PurplePantera, Stella, Grog4life, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, and JohnathonHood
-Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, Alexandria, knot_the_daddy, KJ, LilyChaos, Hadea, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Bonneville, Atsila, PWB, MBRpoodle, Baddogbad, and CozyCow
-Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, and Rope Aficionado
Become a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
Vendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)
- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.
- http://www.torridtimber.com/ - Fine fetish furniture and accessories
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist
-Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners*
Contact info:
Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.com
Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fire
Twitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrin
Instagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/
Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypt
Paypal: MasterKuldrin http://paypal.me/masterkuldrin
http://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource
Limits and Interest Survey: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/survey