70. The Anxious Generation: Parenting in the Smartphone Age

In this thought-provoking episode of The Parent-Teacher Project, Alex Perrottet, Dean of Warrane College at UNSW sits down with Associate Professor Xavier Simmons, Master of Warrane College and Director of the Plunkett Centre for Ethics at ACU, to unpack the growing anxiety epidemic among young people — and how smartphones, social media, and modern parenting might be shaping this "anxious generation.".

The conversation covers the importance of leading by example, the role of legislation in managing children's access to social media, and the powerful influence of parental modelling when it comes to healthy device use. They discuss the growing parental involvement in young adults' lives—such as writing resumes, attending interviews, and even negotiating grades—and how these good intentions can undermine self-reliance.

The discussion also delves into risk aversion, the decline of in-person social interaction, and the need to cultivate resilience and agency among young people. They reflect on the role of reading and engagement with great books as antidotes to screen addiction and as a pathway to deeper reflection, imagination, and emotional maturity. Finally, Xavier shares insights from the Harvard Human Flourishing Study, shedding light on what truly contributes to long-term wellbeing—such as stable family life, strong social relationships, and cultivating meaning and purpose.

Discussion Points:

• Parental Modelling and Example: why leading by example in technology use is one of the most effective ways to guide children towards balanced habits.

• Social Media and Legislation: The potential benefits and limits of policies that restrict children's access to social media and online content.

• Over-Parenting and Self-Reliance: How well-meaning parental involvement can hinder independence and responsibility.

• Risk and Resilience: The importance of allowing young people to face challenges, take risks, and experience failure as essential components of growth and maturity.

• Building Face-to-Face Connections: Why fostering in-person conversations and community engagement is key to developing empathy and authentic human interaction.

• The Power of Reading: How reading good literature can help young people rediscover imagination, reflection, and emotional growth in contrast to passive digital consumption.

Find out more on:

The Anxious Generation, by Jonathan Haidt

Join the Conversation

As parents, educators, teachers and mentors, we all share a role in helping young people navigate an increasingly digital world. What habits do we model at home? How can we create opportunities for children to face small challenges, make mistakes, and grow in confidence?

Reflect on your own family's relationship with technology:

• Are you modelling the balance you hope your children will learn?

• What boundaries could help strengthen face-to-face time at home?

• How can we encourage reading, meaningful conversations, and a love for learning in our children?

• And most importantly, how can we teach them that true flourishing goes beyond screens—it lies in connection, courage, and character?

We'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Join the conversation by sharing your reflections or tips on creating a more mindful, resilient, and flourishing family life.

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