The podcast discusses the need for emotional mastery in men, including vulnerability and the control of emotions. They explore whether stoicism is a worthy ideal and if sensitivity is a weakness. Ways to reconnect with emotions and how husbands can support their wives are discussed. The podcast also explores what women truly want from men emotionally and the dynamics of relationships when one partner is emotionally unavailable.
Controlling emotions involves being aware of physical sensations, taking deep breaths, and addressing unresolved issues.
Sensitivity can be a strength if properly harnessed, and men should reconnect with their emotions through body awareness and journaling.
Husbands should actively listen, support, and guide their wives' emotions by grounding them in reality and providing understanding and love.
Deep dives
The importance of emotional control
Men need to learn how to control their emotions by being aware of their physical sensations and taking deep breaths to stay present. Physical exertion, such as working out, can also help in controlling emotions. It's important to address any unresolved issues or emotions and communicate effectively with others. Stoicism is not the ideal, but rather calibration and integration of emotions. Sensitivity can be a strength if harnessed properly, and men should practice body awareness and journaling to reconnect with their emotions.
Understanding vulnerability and humility
Vulnerability does not imply weakness, but rather a humble and authentic expression of emotions. It is important for men to express their emotions without being controlled by them. Calibrating and processing emotions without carrying them indefinitely is key. Using the word 'humility' instead of 'vulnerability' can help men to express their emotions in a more controlled and integrated manner. It is essential to find the balance between being in control of emotions and expressing them authentically.
Learning to control emotions
Men can learn to control their emotions by being physically active and exerting themselves. It is also important to address any backlog of emotions and unresolved issues. Bringing awareness to the body and practicing communication are key in controlling emotions. Taking moments to connect with the body and understanding physical sensations can help in the process of emotional control. Men's groups or working with a coach can provide support and guidance in learning how to control emotions.
Navigating sensitivity as a strength
Sensitivity can be a superpower if harnessed properly, allowing men to be perceptive and empathetic. However, sensitivity can also become a curse if not controlled. Sensitivity needs to be calibrated and integrated, not suppressed or overwhelmed. Men need to reconnect with their emotions and learn to control their sensitivity. Physical training, such as exercising, can help in sublimating excess emotional energy. Men's groups and seeking support from coaches can assist in the process of navigating sensitivity as a strength.
Supporting wives in their emotions
Husbands should show up for their wives emotionally by actively listening, offering support, and holding space when needed. It is important to communicate and ask what she needs in each situation, whether it's actively solving problems or simply providing a listening ear. Grounding wives in reality and gently guiding their emotions can be beneficial. Guiding them with logic and love can help them navigate their emotions in a healthier way. It's about being present, understanding, and supportive.
What women want from men emotionally
Women want men who are emotionally available, willing to be vulnerable with them, and willing to connect on a deeper level. They want to feel seen, heard, and understood. Men need to show up authentically, letting their guard down when necessary, and being emotionally present. Emotional intimacy is important to women, as they want to feel a deep connection with their partners. It's about being open, receptive, and willing to navigate emotions together.
Should men be vulnerable? How can a man learn to better control his emotions, and on the flip side, how can a man better learn to feel his emotions? Men are often confused and caught between conflicting narratives about how to relate to not only their emotions, but the emotions of their wife. In today’s episode, Brendan & Mike share what they’ve learned on the topic of emotional mastery for men.
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INTRO: (00:50)
CONTENT:
Should men be vulnerable? (04:45)
How can a man better learn to control his emotions? (11:01)
Is stoicism a worthy ideal for men? (16:37)
Is sensitivity a weakness for men? (21:03)
How can a man that is cut off from his emotions start to reconnect to them? (25:00)
How can a husband best show up for his wife in her emotions? (32:37)
What do women really want from men emotionally speaking? (39:50)
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