Grandparents often step in to help raise grandchildren, but what happens when support turns into tension?

In this episode of the Connect2 Podcast, host Ee Jay speaks with Fook Cheong and Mabel—creators of the SPYCes framework—on how grandparents can be allies, not adversaries, in their adult children’s parenting journey.

Discover why the season of raising children ends when your children become independent self-supporting adults, and why respecting boundaries is key to harmony. Learn practical tips on communication, mindset shifts, and avoiding rivalry. Fook Cheong and Mabel share insights from 39 years of marriage and their experience guiding families through intergenerational challenges.

Whether you’re a parent seeking help from grandparents or a grandparent wanting to support without overstepping, this episode offers practical strategies for fostering trust, respect, and shared purpose. Tune in for actionable steps to strengthen marriages and family bonds across generations.

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- Tricia (Name has been edited to protect the client’s privacy)

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