From early dating to reaching certain milestones of relationships, we can all put up our armor of self-protection in ways that actually hurt us in the long haul. We’re chatting with Dr. Raquel Peel about her research and personal experience as a recovering romantic self-saboteur. We discuss why we self-sabotage even the best of relationships, signs to watch out for including the four horsemen of the apocalypse, and how to get out of this cycle that's getting in your own way.

Learn more about Raquel's research: https://www.raquelpeel.com/ and watch her TEDx talk: youtube.com/watch?v=kpIbl34SPNc&feature=youtu.be

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