The Dad Edge Podcast

What I Learned About Motivation That Saved My Marriage

Apr 18, 2025

Motivation is often seen as a fleeting spark, especially in marriage, but it needs to be created intentionally. Personal stories highlight how trust and connection can fade if we wait for motivation to strike. Small, consistent acts of love can reignite intimacy, proving that actions speak louder than feelings. Practical tips are offered for prioritizing a spouse amidst busy lives, transforming temporary motivation into lasting love through proactive engagement.

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Quick takeaways

Motivation in marriage is unreliable; creating connection requires consistent, intentional actions rather than waiting for feelings of motivation.

Small, specific gestures of appreciation and prioritizing quality time can significantly enhance intimacy and combat emotional distance in relationships.

Deep dives

The Illusion of Motivation

Motivation often does not come without action, and waiting for it can lead to missed opportunities for improvement. Many individuals realize their need for motivation only after facing a significant life crisis, such as health issues or relationship breakdowns. This 'crisis motivation' tends to be reactive rather than proactive, highlighting how fleeting the feeling of motivation can be. To effectively foster change in their lives, individuals need to take action instead of relying on a delayed sense of motivation.

Intro

6min

Navigating the Demands of Parenting and Marriage

8min

The Perils of Waiting for Motivation in Marriage

4min

Transforming Motivation into Action for Lasting Love

8min

How often do we find ourselves waiting for motivation to magically appear, especially in our closest relationships?

I've been there too, more times than I'd like to admit. But here's the hard truth I've learned: motivation isn't a reliable spark; it's something we create.

In this deeply personal episode, I'm getting raw and honest about the reality of motivation in marriage. I'm sharing behind-the-scenes moments from my own journey with Jessica, the times I let motivation slip, and the small, intentional actions that helped me rebuild connection and intimacy. It's not about grand gestures; it's about showing up even when you don't "feel" like it.

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In this episode, I'll explore:

Why relying on "feeling" motivated is a recipe for disconnection in your marriage.
The insidious ways that distance can quietly creep into even the strongest relationships.
The power of small, consistent acts of love to reignite intimacy and connection.
Practical strategies to prioritize your spouse, even when life feels overwhelming.
How to break the cycle of waiting for motivation and start leading with action.

Here's what research supports about the power of action and intention:

Studies show that couples who engage in regular, small acts of kindness report a 28% increase in relationship satisfaction.
Research indicates that setting specific, shared goals increases the likelihood of improved communication and intimacy by 35%.
Prioritizing quality time has been shown to reduce feelings of loneliness in relationships by 20%.

If you're ready to stop waiting for motivation and start actively building a stronger, more connected marriage, this episode is for you. Let's take that first step together.

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