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The Jordan Harbinger Show

911: Esther Perel | Cheating, Argument, and Conflict

Oct 17, 2023
01:19:36
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Therapist Esther Perel discusses cheating, conflict, and relationships. Cheaters often want to leave who they've become, not their partner. Is monogamy natural or imposed for control? Arguing for change rather than conflict avoidance. The future of connections with AI. The complexity of cheating in relationships. Therapy, car options, and relationship building. Improving communication and resolving conflicts. Physiological changes in conflict deescalation. Growing up in a culturally diverse household and the power of language. Emotional stability and strategies for dealing with temptation.
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Quick takeaways

  • The desire to find someone else in a relationship often stems from a desire to find another version of oneself, rather than wanting to leave the partner.
  • Exploring individual interests and allowing personal growth can enhance relationships by striking a balance between security and adventure.

Deep dives

Understanding the Desire for Change in Relationships

In this podcast episode, the importance of recognizing that the desire to find someone else is often rooted in the desire to find another self is discussed. When in a relationship, individuals may adopt specific roles and yearn for a different version of themselves. This doesn't necessarily mean they want to leave their partner, but rather they want to leave the person they have become. The podcast explores the multifaceted experience of affairs and highlights that they can occur even in good relationships. It emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between relational issues and individual needs, as well as taking responsibility for personal growth within relationships.

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