Abiding Together S10 E10 Sister Part 3: Mean Girls - The Wounds of Sisterhood
In this episode, we continue our four part series on the identity of sister. This episode is now offered in video on youtube! We discuss the unique wounds that women often inflict on one another and our own experiences of jealousy, rivalry, and competition. We look at how assumptions can damage relationships and the role of intentional communication and transparency in repairing these wounds. We pray this week God would give you courage to behold women in your heart and be a gift to others through your femininity. Be sure to subscribe to the Abiding Together Podcast on YouTube to watch our video podcasts!
Sister Miriam’s one thing - Tiny Hands
Michelle’s one thing - Day Planner from Blessed Is She
Heather’s one thing - Heather’s Steak Pie recipe
Discussion questions:
- What stood out to you from this week’s episode?
- What makes you feel safe in relationships so that you’re able to trust the other?
- What vows or agreements - such as “I will never trust women" or "I can’t trust women like I can men” - have you made because of the ways you were hurt by other women? Have you given Jesus permission to break these bonds?
- Is there a relationship or situation where you have made assumptions about another woman’s behavior or beliefs? How can you bring healing to this relationship through transparency and communication?
Journal Questions:
- Re-read the story of Hagar and Sarah in Genesis 16. What does God want to speak to your heart through this story.
- What jealousy, fears, or comparisons cause you to assume the worst of other women? What would it look like to ‘fill that gap with trust?”
- Take a moment to reflect on any memories that are brought to the surface during this episode. Where do you need healing from wounds caused by other women? Where do you need to repent or ask forgiveness for the ways in which you have wounded other women?
Quotes to Ponder:
“None of us is completely free of this fierce tendency to grasp and control. Every woman has something in herself inherited from Eve, and she must search for the way from Eve to Mary. There is a bit of defiance in each woman which does not want to humble itself under any sovereignty. In each, there is something of that desire which reaches for forbidden fruit." - St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross
Scripture for Lectio Divina:
At that time Mary got ready and hurried to a town in the hill country of Judea, where she entered Zechariah’s home and greeted Elizabeth. When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit. In a loud voice she exclaimed: “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the child you will bear! But why am I so favored, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? As soon as the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby in my womb leaped for joy. Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!”
And Mary proclaimed: My soul glorifies the Lord, and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has been mindful of the humble state of his servant. From now on all generations will call me blessed, for the Mighty One has done great things for me— holy is his name. His mercy extends to those who fear him, from generation to generation. He has performed mighty deeds with his arm ;He has scattered those who are proud in their inmost thoughts. He has brought down rulers from their thrones but has lifted up the humble. He has filled the hungry with good things but has sent the rich away empty. He has helped his servant Israel, remembering to be merciful to Abraham and his descendants forever, just as he promised our ancestors. Mary stayed with Elizabeth for about three months and then returned home. - Luke 1:39-56
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