Real-Time Conflict: Revealing our patterns, conditioning, and juvenile responses.

If you ever wonder what real human conflict looks like, just watch/listen to this podcast. There’s not much more to say about Episode 35. The moment Lauren sits down, Trey brings up the mortgage and the rest of this conflict happens in real time.

You will see these two on the struggle-bus for roughly 30 minutes straight. You’ll hear lengthy pauses and feel the awkward silences. You will see tears, hear juvenile thoughts, and feel Lauren’s feigned powerlessness.

Rewiring our brains is not easy. At minute 11:23 Lauren references the scarcity mindset and the concept of women being of “lesser mind.” She is still seeking to overcome these patterns and conversations like this one about the mortgage still trigger deep fear in her. 

At minute 16:42 Trey brings up the concept of holding space and how easy it could be in these moments to say things like “you’re being ridiculous.”

Chores/mental load, sex, and money are three of the top reasons partnerships dissolve. And we can see why!

At minute 21:00 Trey shares that Lauren is not being manipulative and Lauren shares her favorite concept of “feigned powerlessness.” 

We FINALLY get to the root at minute 25:44. Trey shares the tally marks he’s made recently over the overabundance of investment he feels he’s made into Lauren’s business within the last few weeks. Do not miss the side-eye at minute 26:53. 

They eventually reveal each other’s insecurities, feelings of failure, and their deep desires to serve and support one another. Lauren uncovers how she treats others better than she treats Trey and she commits to doing better. 

What you do NOT see off-screen is the Nurturing Meditation Lauren and Trey do immediately after recording; followed by a walk to complete the stress response cycle in their bodies. 

If it feels comfortable to you, push through and listen to the end. We promise it does get better and the episode ends with laughter and joy.

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