Translating Modern Love Languages With Anne Hodder-Shipp

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Oct 4, 2024

Anne Hodder-Shipp is an AASECT Award-winning certified sex educator and relationship coach, known for founding Everyone Deserves Sex Ed. She unveils her fascinating theory of the 18 Modern Love Languages, emphasizing the need for expanded and personalized expressions of love. They discuss how societal structures shape romantic ideals and the evolution of communication through tools like emojis and GIFs. The conversation highlights the importance of self-love and understanding diverse communication styles to enhance relationships and navigate modern intimacy.

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Expanding Love Languages

Anne Hodder-Shipp found the original 5 Love Languages limiting in her work.
This led her to develop the expanded 18 Modern Love Languages, which she views as a collaborative, evolving concept.

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Defining Love Languages

Love languages are how we express and experience love.
They are diverse and subjective, reflecting the numerous ways we communicate.

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Love, Society, and Power

Societal structures like patriarchy, white supremacy, and capitalism shape our romantic ideals.
These systems influence media portrayals and incentivize traditional relationships.

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Miscommunication in relationships is inevitable. We misunderstand each other, misinterpret and make assumptions about what our partners are thinking and we all bring our own thoughts, feelings and experiences to our relationships - but what happens if it feels like we aren't even speaking the same language?

In this episode Anne Hodder-Shipp discusses her theory of the 18 Modern Love Languages which is a revamp of the love language concept. They talk us through how we think about, understand and communicate love in an almost unlimited number of ways, and how some of our ideas about these 'love shoulds' are the things that may be causing disruption to our relationships in the first place.

Anne describes this idea of the modern love languages as expansive and non-hierarchical, and talks about how they are changing and adapting in the fast paced modern world that we are living in. She also encourages us to consider our own definitions of love, what it feels like to be loved and to recognise the individualness of this, rather than feeling that we don't feel love because it doesn't align with what we were told it should be.

Anne Hodder-Shipp, CSE (she/they) is an AASECT Award-winning certified sex educator and relationship coach. They are the founder and lead educator at Everyone Deserves Sex Ed, a sex ed and professional development organization, and the creator and author of Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love – which has an accompanying guide - The Speaking from the Heart Workbook: A Practical Guide to the Modern Love Languages.

Follow Anne on Instagram at @TheAnneHodder

This series has been brought to you by the luxury sexual wellness brand Lelo, who are offering listeners 30% off all Lelo products purchased on BeautyBay.com Use the code KMOYLE30 until 11.59pm on 31st December 2024.

The Sexual Wellness Sessions is hosted by Kate Moyle, a Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist and Certified Psycho-Sexologist, and author of The Science Of Sex : Every Question About Your Sex Life Answered.

Follow Kate on Instagram at @KateMoyleTherapy

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