How to Stop Saying Sorry Too Much - Stop Over-Apologizing

Feb 18, 2023

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Introduction

00:00 • 2min

Why Do People Over-Apologize?

01:54 • 2min

Four Ways to Stop Overapologizing

04:08 • 2min

How to Be Assertive in Relationships

06:29 • 2min

Replacing Over Apology With Assuredness Can Help You Be More Confident

08:46 • 2min

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Have you ever found yourself saying sorry for things that didn’t really deserve an apology in the first place? I once had a friend ask me “do you always apologize after giving someone a gift?” It shook me a little because I had no idea I was doing that. But when I started watching myself I totally did. I grew up in a culture of over-apologizing and it wasn’t until my 30’s that I realized how harmful it can be. Saying sorry too much undermines how others see you and how you see yourself, and that can really impact you both at home and in the workplace. In this video you’ll learn why you say sorry too much, how this messes up relationships and how to stop over-apologizing.

00:00 Introduction to over-apologizing

00:57 Learn to improve your self-esteem with this course

01:29 What Is Over-Apologizing, and Is It a Problem?

03:03 Why do People Over-Apologize?

05:33 4 Steps to stop over-apologizing

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