199. What Makes a Good Gathering?

In 'Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging', Sebastian Junger delves into the human desire for community and belonging. Drawing from history, psychology, and anthropology, Junger examines why many individuals, including combat veterans, often feel a stronger sense of belonging in tribal or wartime environments than in modern society. He argues that the lack of community in affluent societies can lead to feelings of isolation and depression, while disasters and wars can paradoxically bring people together and foster a sense of unity. The book challenges the notion that modern society is superior to tribal societies, highlighting the benefits of egalitarianism and community found in the latter. Junger also discusses how the absence of these communal bonds can affect veterans returning from war and suggests that societal changes could help reintegrate them and improve overall societal well-being.

In this book, Angela Duckworth presents a compelling argument that success is driven more by grit, a fusion of relentless passion and perseverance, than by talent. She explains what grit is, how to identify and develop it, and how it can be grown through stages such as developing interests, consistent practice, finding a pro-social purpose, and cultivating optimism. The book is structured in three parts: explaining what grit is and why it matters, how to grow grit from the inside out, and how to grow grit from the outside in, targeting parents, coaches, teachers, and organizational leaders. Duckworth supports her arguments with personal stories, historical insights, and interviews with high achievers from various fields.

In 'The Art of Gathering', Priya Parker argues that many gatherings are lackluster and unproductive, but they don't have to be. Drawing on her expertise as a facilitator of various types of gatherings, Parker offers a human-centered approach to create meaningful experiences. She explores a wide array of gatherings, including conferences, meetings, and social events, and provides practical advice on how simple changes can invigorate any group experience. The book emphasizes the importance of knowing the purpose of a gathering, selecting the right venue, and ensuring the event is unique and effective for all attendees.

The book follows the life of Ove, a 59-year-old Swedish man who has recently lost his wife and been forced into retirement. Ove's attempts to end his life are repeatedly interrupted by his new neighbors, particularly Parvaneh, a pregnant Persian woman, and her family. Through flashbacks, the reader learns about Ove's difficult childhood, his relationship with his wife Sonja, and the significant events that shaped his life. Despite his grumpy exterior, Ove's interactions with his neighbors and a stray cat lead him to find new purpose and meaning in life. The story explores themes of grief, friendship, and the impact one person can have on others.

Beartown is a story about a small forest town where the junior ice hockey team is the backbone of the community. The team's success is crucial for the town's morale and economic survival. However, a violent incident involving two teenagers sets off a chain of events that exposes the town's deep-seated secrets and challenges its values. The novel explores themes of friendship, love, betrayal, determination, loyalty, justice, and survival, highlighting the complex web of relationships and the courage it takes for individuals to stand against the norms of their community.