Why Do I Feel Sadness When Others Succeed? ( with Sr. Josephine Garrett)
Feb 6, 2025
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Sister Josephine Garrett, an author and counselor specializing in mental health, joins Fr. Josh to discuss the intricate feelings of sadness that arise when others succeed. They explore the sin of envy, its irrational roots, and the profound effects it has on our spirituality. The conversation emphasizes the importance of patience, humility, and prayer in overcoming envious thoughts. Sister Josephine shares insights on navigating emotions and the gradual nature of spiritual growth, reminding listeners to embrace their feelings with joy and reliance on God's love.
Envy breeds irrational sadness, emphasizing the need for humility and patience to overcome this destructive emotion effectively.
Recognizing our imperfections and relying on God's grace fosters healing, transforming the struggle with negative emotions into opportunities for spiritual growth.
Deep dives
Understanding Envy
Envy is characterized as an irrational sadness over someone else's good fortune, paired with a covetous desire to possess what rightly belongs to others. This sentiment can lead individuals to believe that another person's success equates to their own failure. Recognizing that envy can create divisions in relationships and even contribute to emotional 'death' within friendships highlights its serious implications. By exposing envy to the light and confronting its irrational nature, individuals can begin the healing process and seek God’s grace for overcoming this vice.
Concupiscence and Human Nature
Concupiscence refers to the inherent struggle within human nature that draws individuals towards desires they may not want to pursue. St. Paul emphasizes this battle in Romans, illustrating that even with a sincere desire for holiness, people often find themselves tempted by negative influences. By acknowledging this reality, individuals can better understand their imperfections and refrain from excessive self-condemnation. A constructive prayer practice is to express one's inability to change alone, invoking God's strength and timing to overcome such struggles.
The Importance of Humility in Growth
Humility plays a crucial role in the pursuit of holiness, reminding individuals that imperfection is part of the human experience. The example of St. Therese of Lisieux, who found joy in recognizing her need for Christ's mercy, illustrates the transformative power of maintaining a lighthearted approach towards personal shortcomings. Additionally, recognizing the benefits or perceived gains of negative emotions, such as envy, can lead to deeper self-reflection and healing. By incorporating specific prayers into daily practice, such as invoking humility in challenging relationships, individuals can nurture their spiritual journey and foster a more profound connection with God.
Why do we feel sadness when others succeed? Sr. Josephine Garrett joins Fr. Josh Johnson to discuss the sin of envy as he begins his season on the seven deadly sins. Together, they answer a question about why it's so hard to desire the success of others and explain how patience and humility help us overcome envious thoughts.