Heal Perfectionism, Codependence, & Emotional Outsourcing: Somatic Therapy and Polyvagal Theory 101, with Beatriz Victoria Albina

Oct 15, 2025

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Are you exhausted from constantly trying to make everyone else happy, and losing yourself in the process? Today, we’re talking about breaking free from the burnout of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional outsourcing, and how to regulate your nervous system, trust yourself, and stop abandoning your own needs for the comfort of others.

We’re joined by Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, a Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing and Breathwork Practitioner, and Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. Bea unpacks the hidden cost of emotional outsourcing™, AKA the survival habit of looking to others for validation, self-worth, and emotional regulation, instead of tuning into yourself.

We dive into polyvagal theory, recognizing when you’re in functional freeze, and using somatic tools and nervous system mapping to heal the patterns of codependency, self-abandonment, and avoidance that keep you stuck.

If you’ve ever Googled “how to stop people-pleasing,” “why do I care so much what people think,” “how to heal my nervous system,” or “how to set boundaries without guilt,” this episode is for you.

Tune in to learn about:

What Emotional Outsourcing really means — and why it’s a nervous system response, not a personality flaw
How people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependence develop from early survival patterns
Polyvagal theory 101: how understanding your vagus nerve can help you stop self-abandoning
Are you in a state of functional freeze? How to recognize and heal from it
Understanding social hypervigilence (and the empath paradox)
How to set boundaries and make decisions without guilt or second-guessing
Nervous system mapping and somatic tools to interrupt your automatic responses
How to find balance between flexibility and authenticity
How to stop “performing” to earn love and acceptance
Practical tools for reclaiming your identity, rebuilding self-trust, and honouring your own needs without fear of conflict

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