The need for certainty is massive block

This episode discusses the human need for certainty and how it can become a massive block in achieving goals and living a fulfilling life.

I explain how the need for certainty stems from a deep-rooted desire for safety and control, rooted in our childhood experiences and emotional coding. This need often manifests as a strong emotional reaction when things don't go as planned, and a resistance to uncertainty or lack of control.

Embracing uncertainty and understanding the underlying meanings and emotions driving the need for certainty can help individuals develop a buffer and become more comfortable with uncertainty, leading to personal and professional growth.

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Key Learnings:

1. The need for certainty is a natural human desire, but it can become a hindrance when it is driven by subconscious fears and emotional programming from childhood experiences.

2. Understanding the deeper meanings and emotions associated with uncertainty can help individuals become more aware of their patterns and develop a buffer to embrace uncertainty.

3. Trying to control external events and seeking certainty is often fueled by a desire for a specific emotional state or belief, rather than the events themselves.

4. Facing and allowing fear, rather than trying to eliminate it, can help translate fear into focus and enable individuals to take actions despite uncertainty.

5. Some of the most significant and positive life experiences often come from embracing uncertainty and being open to unexpected events.

Show Notes:

[00:00:00] Introduction to the topic of the need for certainty as a massive block.

[00:01:00] Explanation of the natural human desire for certainty and its prevalence in coaching clients.

[00:02:00] The realization that the only true certainty is death, and the concept of "the only certainty is uncertainty."

[00:03:00] Example of a client's strong need for certainty and the emotional reactions when things don't go as planned.

[00:04:00] Explanation of the brain's absorptive learning stage in childhood and the formation of emotional coding.

[00:05:00] The mind-body system's predictive nature and how it associates uncertainty with feelings of threat or lack of safety.

[00:06:00] The brain's hardwiring for threat detection and how modern threats are often psychological or emotional.

[00:07:00] The client's case study and how her need for certainty kept her from scaling her business.

[00:08:00] The importance of becoming conscious of unconscious patterns and developing a buffer for uncertainty.

[00:09:00] Invitation to look inward and understand the deeper meanings and emotions driving the need for certainty.

[00:10:00] Embracing uncertainty and allowing fear to translate into focus for personal and professional growth.

[00:11:00] Encouragement to put the learnings into action and share results or questions.

[00:12:00] Outro and contact information.