Breaking Free from Lust: Healing, Shame, and Reclaiming a Beautiful Sexuality

Feb 27, 2017

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How a biblical vision of sex—rooted in wholeness, beauty, and fundamental human goodness—offers hope for those struggling with pornography in a world of shame, silence, and secondhand smoke.

Mike Erre and Andy unpack a deeply personal, raw, and candid discussion on pornography addiction within modern Christian culture. This is not your typical “don’t do it” sermon. Instead, the episode seeks to unmask the complex emotional, neurological, relational, and spiritual realities of living in what Mike calls a “pornified culture.” Drawing from emotional honesty and extensive biblical teaching, Mike shares his lifelong struggle, the impact on his family, and the road toward healing, reformation, and freedom.

Key Takeaways: • The Pandemic of Porn and the Power of Shame – Why secrecy gives porn addiction its lasting power and how confession and truth-telling begin the path forward. • Secondhand Smoke of Lust Culture – How porn affects not just users, but society at large—objectification, shame, altered relationships, and decreased desire for healthy love. • A Theology of Sexuality – Reclaiming God’s original intent for sexuality as something good, whole, and a reflection of divine intimacy, rooted in Genesis and Song of Songs. • Lust vs. Desire – Clarifying Jesus’ teachings in Matthew on lust and coveting and differentiating healthy attraction from objectifying lust. • Neurological and Emotional Truth – Exploring modern brain science research that confirms Paul's teachings in Ephesians on the numbing power of lust and addiction. • Unnumbing from Addiction – Mike’s personal tools for healing: confession, accountability practices, spiritual disciplines, joyful parenting, therapy, and choosing to “live up to the freedom you already have.” • Sexuality and Spiritual Formation – Recognizing that lust is not simply a moral failing but a formation issue that must be addressed through new habits, new desires, and community.

Guest Highlights: Mike Erre – Teaching pastor and Voxology host shares with searing honesty his ongoing journey of struggle and growth with porn addiction, emphasizing grace over judgment and formation over fear.

Andy Laura – Contributes as a thoughtful millennial voice, reflecting on marriage, generational challenges, and the fallout of purity culture, while offering hope for a deeper, healthier view of sex and relationships.

Resources and References: • Ephesians 4:17–19 – Paul's teaching on the hardening of heart and loss of sensitivity as stages of addiction. • Genesis 1–3, Song of Songs – A foundation for understanding God’s “very good” creation of sexuality and human desires. • Dallas Willard & Richard Foster – Insights on spiritual disciplines and the pursuit of formation, not perfection. • Covenant Eyes – covenanteyes.com – Tool for accountability software mentioned by Mike. • Sexual Addicts Anonymous – saa-recovery.org – Support groups based on the 12-step model. • Brain Studies Cited – Research on neuroplasticity, dopamine pathways, and addiction recovery.

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