Ep141: Unusual ways to play with rope bondage - an interview with Midori (pt 2)

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Feb 13, 2023

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INSIGHT

Intent Defines Rope Bondage Experience

Intent in rope bondage defines the genre and experience desired, much like planning a meal or a movie genre.
Clarifying intent prevents mismatched expectations and unhappy experiences between partners.

ANECDOTE

Adapt Scenes To Current Needs

Midori described a scene where pre-negotiated rough dominance had to shift due to physical and emotional states.
They adapted the scene to a tender mood, demonstrating the importance of flexibility and communication.

ADVICE

Use Rituals For Mindfulness

Use ritual to transition into play by disconnecting from everyday life and focusing on sensation.
Rituals can be simple, like turning off your phone and recoiling your rope, to cultivate mindfulness.

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‘Auntie’ Midori has a lot of scenes behind her (and in front of her!) and her depth of experience in play means she has huge resources to draw on for ideas. Her interest in rope developed alongside her experience in other kinks, and in this episode, fox and Mya explore some of her more unusual ideas on ‘how to play’. This is a great episode to help enhance your scenes, beginner or advanced, whatever your level. Listen to the discussion to hear about: • Intent in rope bondage, what it means, and making sure both (all) parties’ intents match • Food as a metaphor for scening • Why she doesn’t start negotiations by discussing the type of tie she wants • How intent can help you if you get stuck progressing your scene • The need to be flexible even when you’ve planned our your intent in advance • Rituals, what they are, from the simplest to the most complicated • Her personal rope rituals • Insights into her rope playlists • How you can draw on mindfulness to create deeper, more intense rope scenes • The kind of help she needs to get present to the right topping headspace • ‘Antagonistic’ versus ‘collaborative’ rope, what it is and how it connects to intent • How listeners can use the idea of verbs and nouns in their rope play • Doing rope bondage with your ass! • And so much more <3 Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women's Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, "Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage" in 2001, paving the way to the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the "Super Nova of Kink," while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. Midori is the Co-Director of Curriculum for Kink Informed Certification, part of Sexual Health Alliance, training therapists and helping professional to provide safe, compassionate, and inclusive service to their clients. She is the recipient of the 2022 Humanitarian Award from the American Association of Sex Educators Therapists & Counselors (AASECT) and 2022 Effing Foundation Grant, along with having honored with a Sainthood by the Sisters of Perpetual indulgence. She is also the author of "Wild Side Sex," "Master Han's Daughter," and "Silk Threads.” Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori (this is where she is working on her next shibari book through this site!)