EP 181: The People Pleasers' Guide to Anger with Juna Mustad

In this episode, Kimerbly and Juna discuss our relationship to anger, especially as people pleasers. While we are often conditioned to resist or dismiss anger, Juna describes anger as being an ally for our ultimate healing and the charge for our life force energy. Juna explains her relationship to anger which often made her uncomfortable as she spent much of her life pleasing people at the expense of her own mind, body, and vitality. She learned how anger can show us parts of ourselves that need tended to as well as move us deeper into connection with others. Her upcoming course on anger and people pleasing begins March 5th!

Bio

Juna Mustad is a friend and recurring podcast guest. Juna is an iIntuitive counselor, somatic experience practitioner, life and relationship coach, and support team member for Kimberly of all things somatic. For 13 years, Juna has been offering intuitive coaching sessions for individuals and groups. Her upcoming course, "The People Pleasers' Guide to Anger" is a six-week online course for cultivating a healthier relationship with anger, boundaries, and your innate power.

What She Shares:

–Juna's relationship to anger and people pleasing

–Destigmatizing anger and fight responses

–People pleasing as survival

–Reconnecting to our bodies' desire through anger

–"The People Pleaser's Guide to Anger" online course

What You'll Hear:

–Jana's TedTalk on anger and people pleasing

–Anger as an ally for healing

–Anger as a pesky, creative spark and connecting with life force

–Visceral fight responses leading to transformation

–People pleasing same as fawning

–Internal Family Systems and multiple selves

–Distancing core self from other selves in fawning

–People pleasing and gender/racial dynamics

–Effects of people pleasing like illness, distortions, addiction, etc.

–Destigmatizing fight responses and anger

–Using play, humor, and safety in accessing anger

–Multitudes of responses to anger

–Using play to release charge

–Destigmatizing people pleasing as a coping skill

–People pleasing as a survival tactic

–When people pleasing becomes dominant way of being

–Creating capacity for relating better

–Primal power and instinct is outside of people pleasing

–Leaving ourselves to create connection through others

–Leaving a psycho-abusive relationship

–Anger needs action

–Reconnecting to body and desire

–Speaking to our anger instead of from our anger

–Holding others' anger with our own

–Fight response as our inner protector

–Dismissing anger blocks flow of life force energy

–People pleasing to make others feel safe over ourselves

–Cultural differences around confrontation

–Adolescence and people pleasing/social nervous systems

–Six-week online course beginning March 5th

Resources

Website: https://www.junamustad.com/

IG: @juna.mustad