Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast AnnaLynne McCord and Unhealthy BDSM-S04E02
Mar 6, 2022
57:00
Recorded: 08/08/2021 / Published: 3/6/2022
- https://kuldrinskrypt.com.
- In this week’s episode of The Krypt we are diving into a discussion about unhealthy times to participate in BDSM.
- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
- “AnnaLynne McCord and Unhealthy BDSM?-S04E02”
“AnnaLynne McCord Says She Experimented with Cutting, BDSM: 'To Feel Anything In My Body At All'” By TooFab Staff 8/4/2021
https://toofab.com/2021/08/04/annalynne-mccord-says-she-experimented-with-cutting-bdsm/
“AnnaLynne McCord has opened up about her childhood trauma and abuse, and the different behaviors and coping mechanisms she experienced as a result.
Speaking candidly on Wednesday's episode of the "Call Me Daddy" podcast, the "90210" actress recalled being "abusive" to herself because the "level of torture" in her youth was "so horrific" that she would attempt to remove any pain reception.
"I just stopped feeling pain," AnnaLynne began. "The self-harming started just because I couldn't feel anything. The level of torture that I went through as a child that I now remember was so horrific that my brain said no, she can't feel, so we're gonna shut off feeling."
In attempts to counter the numbness, the former model, 34, would also find herself in sexual relationships that practiced sadism and masochism. "A big part of BDSM for me was just trying to feel anything in my body at all," she added.
"I was opening up Pandora's box sexually without consciously knowing why I might like these things, why they might turn me on the way they did," she continued. "Because our beautiful brains that put pain and pleasure together to try to help us, ended up keeping me in a body that would go on to abuse herself for a very long time."
"People laugh and say, 'Oh, I have a high tolerance for pain' -- you should ask yourself why. Because that's not a good thing. We have pain for a reason, it's to let us know something's wrong. And you don't win awards for having a high tolerance for pain. That's unkind to your body."
Only after she became a success in Hollywood did AnnaLynne discover she had a lifelong battle with dissociative identity disorder, the disease formerly known as multiple personality disorder.
"You are not multiple personalities when you experience DID. You are fragmented versions of yourself," she explained. "The reason that the brain splits in this regard, it's always a protective mechanism."
One of the versions of herself was called "Little Anna" where she used baby talk when dealing with the opposite sex.
"I had this mechanism with men where I thought I had to be really small. And it wasn't a conscious thought," AnnaLynne said. "Bad things happened if I wasn't a good little girl, who was the special girl, who did the things that she was supposed to do."
"I didn't know why I had to just give my body to people and I didn't realize that I was doing it because I was hoping that I'd get some love back," she added. "And I was so desperate to be loved because I was so alone and had been so alone for so long."
She would eventually seek help with a doctor who explored her repressed memories and taught her how to heal.
"I want my quality of life to get better and that's why I stepped into this healing process," she said in April. "I want to thrive."”
What instances could BDSM be unhealthy?
Trauma replacement (Topping/bottoming)
Coercion
Participating because it’s the “in thing”.
Unethical participation
Major Depression/Suicidal thoughts…
xemeraldxwolfx: I think the entire HALT acronym applies. Hungry, Angry, lonely, and tired but also includes horny, drinking or sick.
I think it’s worth noting that there’s a difference between being around kinky friends and family, and actively participating. Someone I know locally was dealing with a lot of things and traumas in her life, and while she came to parties and was around, she didn’t actively participate because she and her therapist agreed that she wasn’t in a good headspace for it.
Art Kitten: lack of self control, inability to say no (for any reason), depending on it to feel, lack of self care
TinkerBratTN: BDSM is just like anything. If you use it as avoidance, you're only worsening your mental and emotional health. There is nothing wrong with stepping back and working on self.
Important Links:
Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/402
National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
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- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist
- Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13
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- https://kuldrinskrypt.com.
- In this week’s episode of The Krypt we are diving into a discussion about unhealthy times to participate in BDSM.
- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
- “AnnaLynne McCord and Unhealthy BDSM?-S04E02”
“AnnaLynne McCord Says She Experimented with Cutting, BDSM: 'To Feel Anything In My Body At All'” By TooFab Staff 8/4/2021
https://toofab.com/2021/08/04/annalynne-mccord-says-she-experimented-with-cutting-bdsm/
“AnnaLynne McCord has opened up about her childhood trauma and abuse, and the different behaviors and coping mechanisms she experienced as a result.
Speaking candidly on Wednesday's episode of the "Call Me Daddy" podcast, the "90210" actress recalled being "abusive" to herself because the "level of torture" in her youth was "so horrific" that she would attempt to remove any pain reception.
"I just stopped feeling pain," AnnaLynne began. "The self-harming started just because I couldn't feel anything. The level of torture that I went through as a child that I now remember was so horrific that my brain said no, she can't feel, so we're gonna shut off feeling."
In attempts to counter the numbness, the former model, 34, would also find herself in sexual relationships that practiced sadism and masochism. "A big part of BDSM for me was just trying to feel anything in my body at all," she added.
"I was opening up Pandora's box sexually without consciously knowing why I might like these things, why they might turn me on the way they did," she continued. "Because our beautiful brains that put pain and pleasure together to try to help us, ended up keeping me in a body that would go on to abuse herself for a very long time."
"People laugh and say, 'Oh, I have a high tolerance for pain' -- you should ask yourself why. Because that's not a good thing. We have pain for a reason, it's to let us know something's wrong. And you don't win awards for having a high tolerance for pain. That's unkind to your body."
Only after she became a success in Hollywood did AnnaLynne discover she had a lifelong battle with dissociative identity disorder, the disease formerly known as multiple personality disorder.
"You are not multiple personalities when you experience DID. You are fragmented versions of yourself," she explained. "The reason that the brain splits in this regard, it's always a protective mechanism."
One of the versions of herself was called "Little Anna" where she used baby talk when dealing with the opposite sex.
"I had this mechanism with men where I thought I had to be really small. And it wasn't a conscious thought," AnnaLynne said. "Bad things happened if I wasn't a good little girl, who was the special girl, who did the things that she was supposed to do."
"I didn't know why I had to just give my body to people and I didn't realize that I was doing it because I was hoping that I'd get some love back," she added. "And I was so desperate to be loved because I was so alone and had been so alone for so long."
She would eventually seek help with a doctor who explored her repressed memories and taught her how to heal.
"I want my quality of life to get better and that's why I stepped into this healing process," she said in April. "I want to thrive."”
What instances could BDSM be unhealthy?
Trauma replacement (Topping/bottoming)
Coercion
Participating because it’s the “in thing”.
Unethical participation
Major Depression/Suicidal thoughts…
xemeraldxwolfx: I think the entire HALT acronym applies. Hungry, Angry, lonely, and tired but also includes horny, drinking or sick.
I think it’s worth noting that there’s a difference between being around kinky friends and family, and actively participating. Someone I know locally was dealing with a lot of things and traumas in her life, and while she came to parties and was around, she didn’t actively participate because she and her therapist agreed that she wasn’t in a good headspace for it.
Art Kitten: lack of self control, inability to say no (for any reason), depending on it to feel, lack of self care
TinkerBratTN: BDSM is just like anything. If you use it as avoidance, you're only worsening your mental and emotional health. There is nothing wrong with stepping back and working on self.
Important Links:
Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/402
National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication
https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic
Show Producers:
- Benefactor ($2,000/month):
- Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92
- Master Producer ($50/month):
- Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, Anomalous Mats, Just_Call_Me_Ash, Kiongakyu, dboat, and Frozen Moron
- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, Trouble113, RoxieBear, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, Alexandria, babylove&T-Rex, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Knot_the_Daddy, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Toredon, Odie & Ceci, Cap'n J, Saviy, AK-47, Charlie & little bit, and Mr. Byond
- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, Arctic Foxglove, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Gator, Gizmo, JJ, Jon Shaw, TheCheshyre, -miggs-, TripleDelicious, Ben, Solsticee, TinkerBratTN, Brittany, Sekhmets_Shadow, and Beatrix Kiddo
- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and Ashley
Become a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
Vendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)
- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist
- Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13
- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)
Contact info:
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