Episode Highlights With Eli Harwood

How to tell if your relationship with your child is secure or insecure
Ways to strengthen the attachment with your child
Attachment is like a dance and how this is helpful to understand
A strong attachment with parent/child only depends on us being responsive and “getting it right” 30-50% of the time
This is not a perfection game… it's about showing up enough so our kids know we are there for them and leaders in repair when we don’t show up perfectly
The things every kid needs to hear from their parents
Does your child have a feeling or a message from you that they feel that their presence is delightful
The importance of making sure our kids hear and feel things along the lines of: I love having you near me, I got you, your pain is not a burden to me, I believe in you, you got this, and I’m sorry
Ways to help our children feel safe opening up even about the hard things and big feelings at various ages
What attachment transfer is and why it matters
Specific advice for navigating the teen years
The distinction between your feelings matter and they don’t always dictate the situation

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