428 - Capacity Expansion (Pt. 2): Why Nervous System Hacks Don’t Stick — and How to Build Real Capacity

If nervous system tools help… why do you keep needing them?

Why does regulation feel temporary?
 Why do you calm down — only to feel activated again a few hours later?
 Why does it feel like you’re constantly managing your nervous system just to get through the day?

This episode answers that question clearly and compassionately.

Because tools don’t change your baseline.
 Capacity does.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between regulating in the moment and expanding your nervous system’s capacity, why high-achieving women often feel like regulation never “sticks,” and what’s actually required to widen your window of tolerance over time.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why needing frequent regulation tools doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong
• The difference between momentary regulation and long-term capacity expansion
• How allostatic load quietly narrows your window of tolerance
• Why insight and self-awareness alone don’t change nervous system patterns
• How productivity and busyness can function as stress coping strategies
• What foundational habits actually build capacity instead of just managing symptoms

This episode is for you if you’re highly self-aware, using nervous system tools regularly, and still feel like stress comes back faster than you’d like.

If you’re tired of constantly managing your nervous system and want to understand how to change your baseline — not just calm yourself down — this conversation will help you see what’s missing, and what actually moves the work forward.